I like to break everything into really simple components so that I can get to the core of whatever I am trying to do. In today's environment, we are bombarded with more data and information than we can possibly process on any given subject. I find that I can easily get distracted from the my goal if I don't boil it down to the bare bones - the 80/20 rule.
Regarding relationships, there are three simple analogies that normally guide my dating life.
The first is "Cat String". What does a cat do when you shake a string in front of it? It stalks it, chases it and pounces on it - as long as the string keeps moving. And as soon as the string stops, the cat directs its attention elsewhere.
Applied to dating, this means being somewhat aloof, choosy, and being somewhat unpredictable. Tease them! Keep the chase game going.
The second is "Petting the dog". You scratch a dog behind the ears and you have a friend for life. Pull your hand away and they will come over and nudge you with their muzzle for you to continue.
Applied to dating, everyone loves to be touched. And they will miss it when the touch goes away. "Pet" your date or the women you are talking to with confident touches on the arm, shoulder, back, etc. And then take the touch away. They will miss the touch and want more. In the pick up community, it is called "Kino" and there are hundreds of articles about it.
The final analogy is "Stoking the fire". What happens when a fire doesn't get any oxygen? It goes out? And too much wind will blow a fire out.
Applied to dating, you must calibrate your attention with women. Too much of it and you will smother them, they will lose attraction and you will lose the girl. Not enough of it and they will find some other guy who captures their attention and affection.
"Absence diminishes little passions and increases great ones, as wind extinguishes candles and fans a fire"
- Francois de La Rochefoucauld
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