Day 19 - Finish What You Started

I wake up tired and drag myself to work. Working out, a high demand job and doing the 30 day challenge are tough on these old bones.

I had a lunch date with the girl I number closed and made out with on Monday. I went to pick her up at her work and before I found my girl, one of her coworkers (who didn't know who I was) started some very obvious flirting with me. As I was talking to her, my date showed up and gave her coworker the dagger eyes.

We leave and her coworkers texts her "He is fine! Where did you find him? Are there more like him there?"

I have my hand on her thigh as we drive to this kick ass Vietnamese restaurant. We get there and the dude directs us to a table. I make sure I sit next to her so I can kino her while eat but she thwarts my plans by saying there was too much air blowing on her so we get moved to a 2-top.

I flirt through lunch and continue the "naughty" teasing I started when we first met a couple of days ago. I tease her about being a bad girl, how her middle name must "naughty", how I know she is having trouble eating because she is fantasizing about what she wants to do to me, to stop undressing me with her eyes, etc. Oh, and we have some comfort conversation too. I am maintaining intense eye contact through all of our discussion.

Lunch is over and she wants to swing by a sandwich place to pick up sandwiches for her coworkers. We get there and it turns out they don't take credit cards (its a hole the wall) and she only has $5. She asks if she can borrow some money. I tell her sure but she owes me. She gives me a kiss and then rubs and scratches my back while they make the sandwiches. Debt paid.

I drive her back to work while holding hands in the car. I walk her in and all of her coworkers are checking us out. She goes to give me a quick hug and then pulls away obviously embarrased by being the center of attention. As she tries to slide away, I grab her hand, forcefully pull her back to me, grab her hair and pull her head back and plant a big kiss on her. She kisses me back and moans a little bit and then rushes away embarrased.

She texts me later that for some reason, I make her shy and that she can't wait to see me again when her coworkers aren't around. I call this date a success!

I get back to work and get a text from the Asian from last night. She is texting from her friend's phone so that I can't see her number. She apologizes for leaving me hanging twice now and wants to make it up to me tonight. I tell her I have dinner plans and that if I get done in time, I might see her. She begs me to come out and I tell her I will if she wears a skirt with no panties. She agrees.

I have a happy hour date lined up with the girl from http://twitchypua.blogspot.com/2007/07/day-8-happy-birthday-to-me.html but am going to have to work late so I email her and cancel. She wants to meet up later but I can't as I have a dinner date lined up. She wants to make plans for this weekend and I tell her that my weekend is pretty full but we can talk about it tomorrow. She tells me she is sorry for always whining about wanting to see me and that she will stop whining so that I will want to spend more time with her. I love it - I blow her off and she apologizes to me....

In the late afternoon, 3 other girls I am working call me and want to know if I would meet them for happy hour and/or dinner. Just putting myseslf out there day after day really seems to be really paying off in the dating department. I regretfully decline all of the date requests with hope that we can raincheck for a later date.

Then my former one-it-is calls and wants me to go to dinner and then to a party with her. I tell her I have plans but that we need to catch up soon. Last week she dropped the "why aren't we dating?" bomb on me and we have never really discussed her comment.

I finally get off work around 7:30pm and drive home. My date is across the street at a store waiting for me and immediately comes over when I call. We go grab drinks, then dinner, then drinks and then head to my place.

We go inside and start making out. I suggest that we go into my room when sure enough, my roommate comes home. Roommate is about 50/50 now with either blowing out my dates or setting me up with her friends. God bless her.....

Roommate and my date get into an in depth girlie conversation so I ignore both of them and start playing on the computer. So much for this date ending with a bang. Roommate finally goes into her room and my date leaves.

I shower quick, call my sweetie from south Texas and my ex I have been hanging around lately. Ex asks me to come over to spend the night and I debate about doing it when a text from the Asian tease comes in. She wants to meet up. I have been blue balled twice by her now and decide that I am going to try one more time and if I fail, to give her up.

I show up at the bar and the gang is all here - Sinn, Capt Jack, Printer, Juice, Future and Asian tease and her friend. Asian immediately comes over and gives me a big hug while I decide what strategy I am going to try with her tonight. Asian is NOT wearing the skirt I asked her to and instead has these little hot shorts on. I give her a hard time about that.

I end up in conversation with Capt Jack when Future rolls over and tells me I need to start gaming Asian or give her up as he wants to go after her. I go over to her and a makeout ensues. Game on yet again!

We spend the next hour all over each other. She has her hand in my pocket rubbing Lil Twitch when I get a text from Sinn: "dude if u wanna get laid push that bitch off. you're chasing her WAY too hard."

I text Sinn back: "She is not gonna do anything. A tease"

Why did I feel I should reject the advice of one of the world's best pick up artists? Because I had tried take-aways many times before with her and they didn't work. She keeps telling me how horny I make her, how wet she gets when she thinks of me, how I must be able to get any girl I want, etc. so I KNOW she is into me. In my mind, I think I am just going to have to wear this one down. There are exceptions.....they can't all be textbook pick ups.

Shortly afterwards, Future, another one of the best, gives me the same sound advice Sinn did. He told me I need to give her the sense of loss - active disinterest. That I was providing her with what she wanted (attention, sexual turn on) and there was no incentive for her to progress the relationship because she was already getting what she wanted from me. She was leading.

I always respect and appreciate constructive criticism - how else can you learn. I started thinking back to the take-aways I had done with her in the past and realized that they were fake take-aways. They were more of a tease than a real take-away that would generate a sense of loss. She could probably see right through them.

Thank you Future and Sinn for helping me out!

Someone once told me that the definition of insanity is going the same things over and over and expecting a different result. I realized that with my busy schedule, I wasn't going to put up with her teasing much longer and I might as well go for broke and let her know this was it.

I excuse myself to go to the bathroom and make a lazy lap around the bar. I end up opening a 3 set of girls near the mechanical bull and convince them to all get on the bull together. I watch the show and then head to the center bar where I see a friend of a friend. He is surrounded by some cuties so I start talking to them. One of them shows attraction so I flirt with her for a bit and then excuse myself to go catch up with my friends with a mental note to come back to her.

This is what I call a short set - spike attraction, leave, come back later. I do these often and they work for me. When you come back later, you are no longer a "random guy" or a creepy guy who will hound her all night long. You enter at a higher level in her eyes when you leave and return and it gives you less chance to screw things up by saying or doing something stupid while you are plowing through your routines.

I then go by the band and watch them play for a while before meandering back to our group.

Asian confronts me about why I left her for so long. I tell her I was talking to some girls I had just met. I then tell her that I realized that if I kept hanging around while she constantly teased me, I am always going to remain single and never find a girlfriend. She tries to kiss me again and I am unresponsive. She is hurt by my comment and gets stand-off-ish. I use this opportunity to take away even more so I back turn her, hang out with the boys and start pointing out hot girls to Capt Jack and Juice.

She eventually comes over and tells me she is not a tease and and starts kissing me again. It is about 1am and she mentions that she would like to get out of there. Her friend agrees that it is time to leave. I tell them bye and that I doubt I will ever see her again.

Once again, she is hurt by my comments and wants to know why I won't see her anymore. I tell her it is because she is all talk and tease and no action. I explain that although I like to tease, it is clear my teasing happens along a sexual seduction journey that will eventually lead somewhere. Her teasing is just ramping me up and abandoning me which is disrespectful. I am a busy guy and don't need to put up with it anymore.

She tells me that I am off base and that she just moves slow. I tell her that is fine but this is the end of the road for me. She asks me to leave with them. I decide I need to get friend's approval or I have no chance as they rode together again. I go over to Asian's friend and tell her that Asian is leaving with me, not her. Friend says that is fine but that she is coming to my house too but will stay on the couch while we "hang out" in the bedroom. Asian agrees.

We go outside and Asian hesitates. I confidentally escort her to my car with my hand on her back while she is looking over her shoulder longingly at her friend's car. I open the door and guide her in with my hand on her back and then shut the door.

We drive off with Friend following us. We get to my house and Friend pulls me aside. She tells me she is all for me showing Asian a good time but that I need to be good to her. Friend tells me she really likes me and can tell I am not like most other guys. She asks for a good TV show, a blanket, some water and that we don't keep her waiting longer than 2:30 am.

I can tell Asian is nervous so I pour us a drink and give her a tour of the place with some fluff talk. I show her the pictures I took, where I got some of the nick nacks I have in my place and talk about some of the places I have traveled. She gets more comfortable and we end up making out in the kitchen. Things then start to get hot and heavy. She undoes my pants and starts to give me yet another handjob. I have my hands all over her. I glance at the clock and find that it is 2:15. I look over and Friend is nodding off.

I tell Asian that I am not going to sleep with her (to avoid LMR) as we don't have nearly enough time and then grab her hand and drag her into my bedroom and shut the door. She pulls me to the bed and I lay on top of her. I hot makeout ensues while she pulls my pants and underwear down to my thighs and reinitiates the hand job.

I slowly work my way down, remove her shorts and underwear and then go down on her. She doesn't do anything to stop me or slow me down and actually helps me remove her panties. She starts moaning and then comes very quickly. She tells me she can tell I am very experienced as that is the best licking she has ever received.

She then rolls me over and starts to return the favor. She works Lil Twitch for a while but isn't quite using the pressure or technique I am used to with my ex. Altough she is good, programming is hard to break and I can tell I am going to be a VERY long time finishing and our clock is ticking so I pull her back up to me.

She is kissing on my chest as she reaches down, grabs Lil Twitch and gets ready to mount me. However, from where we are at, I can't reach my condoms. I adjust us on the bed so that I can grab at my condoms when there is a knock on the door from Friend telling us our time is up effectively killing the mood.

We dress and I walk them out. I give Friend a big hug and then make out one last time with Asian. She tells me she thinks I am amazing and can't wait to see me again so we can finish what she started. She gives me her number and asks me to call her. Finally!