Tuesday, December 30, 2008
Sunday, December 28, 2008
Quote of the day
LIFE.... is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty & well preserved body, but rather to skid in sidewise, totally worn out & screaming.... HELL YA!!! What a fucking ride!!!
Cycles
As everyone who has ever had an intimate relationship with a woman for any length of time can attest, you will quickly learn about the female menstrual cycle and the various emotional states that may come and go with it.
A quick primer – the cycle happens on average every 28 days with ovulation usually on the 14th day. The most fertile period during the cycle comes right around ovulation as sperm can live over 72 hours inside the female body. Hormones to promote pregnancy typically happen two days prior to ovulation and lasts normally around 48 hours.
Before the period occurs, many symptoms may occur in the female, varying in intensity from woman to woman, based on genetics, birth control, health, diet, age and other factors. Some of the effects that may occur:
- Breast tenderness and swelling
- Weight gain of a few pounds
- Bloating
- Cramping
- Fatigue
- Mood swings
Such symptoms are usually predictable and occur regularly during the two weeks prior to the period but are usually at their worst starting the 6th day before the period. PMS generally occurs on a regular basis, with susceptible women experiencing the same symptoms on a regular basis.
As a guy, it is advantageous to talk to your girl about her cycle. Is it regular? Does she get moody? Is it painful? Having a better understanding can help you in all of your interactions with her. It should also demonstrate caring and compassion that you are trying to get to know her and understand her better.
When a girl is PMSing, a guy should know how to handle her mood swings if she is susceptible to such. Hugs and kisses can sometimes diffuse arguments or drama during that time instead of heatedly reacting to any spike of emotion from her. Women will appreciate your actions and appreciate you more for being understanding – at least the women in my life have.
Many times, if a girl is acting irrational during when she is PMSing, I will call her on her BS by telling her she is overreacting or being irrational. Some women are fine with this, however with others, I have found that you need to have a conversation regarding her mood swings when she is not PMSing. “Wow, last week you were really moody, were you PMSing?” Get that conversation on the table so that you can bring it up during the moment to ease any irrationality and avoid needless arguments.
Really key is noting her cycle and correlating it to her moods. Most women have a time or two a month when they are really horny. Usually this occurring around ovulation is normal but I have found many women also get really horny right before their period. It varies by girl but I have found it to be fairly consistent for each girl.
If you need help tracking a female’s cycle, there are actually free website to help. Check out www.pmsbuddy.com as one example.
Strategy: So, if you have a girl who was really hot for you at the club or when you are out with her and the next time you see her she suddenly goes cold, correlate it to her monthly cycle and try to contact her again the same time of her cycle a month later.
My philosophy is to never throw away a number. You never know what mood, emotional state or relationship statuts the girl was in when you met her. I will always try again later if I was really attracted to the girl. If I thought our interaction was really intense, I will note what time of the month it happened and try again a month or two later during that same time.
Plant many seeds and with nourishment they will grow.
A quick primer – the cycle happens on average every 28 days with ovulation usually on the 14th day. The most fertile period during the cycle comes right around ovulation as sperm can live over 72 hours inside the female body. Hormones to promote pregnancy typically happen two days prior to ovulation and lasts normally around 48 hours.
Before the period occurs, many symptoms may occur in the female, varying in intensity from woman to woman, based on genetics, birth control, health, diet, age and other factors. Some of the effects that may occur:
- Breast tenderness and swelling
- Weight gain of a few pounds
- Bloating
- Cramping
- Fatigue
- Mood swings
Such symptoms are usually predictable and occur regularly during the two weeks prior to the period but are usually at their worst starting the 6th day before the period. PMS generally occurs on a regular basis, with susceptible women experiencing the same symptoms on a regular basis.
As a guy, it is advantageous to talk to your girl about her cycle. Is it regular? Does she get moody? Is it painful? Having a better understanding can help you in all of your interactions with her. It should also demonstrate caring and compassion that you are trying to get to know her and understand her better.
When a girl is PMSing, a guy should know how to handle her mood swings if she is susceptible to such. Hugs and kisses can sometimes diffuse arguments or drama during that time instead of heatedly reacting to any spike of emotion from her. Women will appreciate your actions and appreciate you more for being understanding – at least the women in my life have.
Many times, if a girl is acting irrational during when she is PMSing, I will call her on her BS by telling her she is overreacting or being irrational. Some women are fine with this, however with others, I have found that you need to have a conversation regarding her mood swings when she is not PMSing. “Wow, last week you were really moody, were you PMSing?” Get that conversation on the table so that you can bring it up during the moment to ease any irrationality and avoid needless arguments.
Really key is noting her cycle and correlating it to her moods. Most women have a time or two a month when they are really horny. Usually this occurring around ovulation is normal but I have found many women also get really horny right before their period. It varies by girl but I have found it to be fairly consistent for each girl.
If you need help tracking a female’s cycle, there are actually free website to help. Check out www.pmsbuddy.com as one example.
Strategy: So, if you have a girl who was really hot for you at the club or when you are out with her and the next time you see her she suddenly goes cold, correlate it to her monthly cycle and try to contact her again the same time of her cycle a month later.
My philosophy is to never throw away a number. You never know what mood, emotional state or relationship statuts the girl was in when you met her. I will always try again later if I was really attracted to the girl. If I thought our interaction was really intense, I will note what time of the month it happened and try again a month or two later during that same time.
Plant many seeds and with nourishment they will grow.
Friday, December 19, 2008
He's not dumping you because...
Interesting article....
http://www.cnn.com/2008/LIVING/personal/12/18/reasons.you.wont.get.dumped/index.html
http://www.cnn.com/2008/LIVING/personal/12/18/reasons.you.wont.get.dumped/index.html
Wednesday, December 10, 2008
Men overspend to attract mates
http://news.yahoo.com/s/livescience/20081210/sc_livescience/oogaoogamenoverspendtoattractmates
Monday, December 8, 2008
Men are Red, Women are Green
http://www.wlwt.com/health/18226484/detail.html?rss=cin&psp=irresistible
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
Friday, October 10, 2008
The seven ways to sniff out if your partner is true to you
http://feeds.bignewsnetwork.com/index.php?sid=416797
Monday, September 29, 2008
To improve your marriage, be quiet
http://www.cnn.com/2008/LIVING/personal/09/26/o.improve.your.marriage/index.html
Friday, September 5, 2008
Saturday, August 16, 2008
Wednesday, August 6, 2008
Tuesday, July 29, 2008
Monday, July 28, 2008
Tuesday, July 15, 2008
Why We Have Affairs — And Why Not to Tell
http://www.time.com/time/arts/article/0,8599,1820942,00.html?xid=newsletter-weekly
In her 30 years of counseling couples, Mira Kirshenbaum has discerned 17 reasons that people have extramarital affairs. In a near majority of couples, one partner will cheat on the other at some point. In her new book, When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts & Minds of People in Two Relationships (St. Martin's), Kirshenbaum explains the reasons and offers some helpful — and sometimes surprising — advice on how to manage the consequences. TIME senior reporter Andrea Sachs reached Kirshenbaum at her office in Boston:
TIME: Is there a pattern in the way that affairs begin?
Mira Kirshenbaum: People say, "I never meant for this to happen." They're being honest when they say that. Typically, they're in a committed relationship, but they aren't perfectly happy. No one who was perfectly happy in their primary relationship gets into a second one. They're a lot unhappy, or maybe just a little. Maybe they have no plans to cheat. And then the other person somehow floats onto their radar screen. The image that I have is like someone who has been wandering around with a couple of empty wine glasses who suddenly meets someone with a bottle of wine. And so they want a little taste. It starts very innocently. Very slowly they get to know each other. It's often an emotional affair to begin with. Maybe they have long conversations, whatever. However it happens, eventually they realize that they've crossed some sort of line. But they realize it after they've crossed it. And it feels wonderful because it was a line they were hungry to cross. But it also feels terrible because they know it's cheating, and they know they never wanted to be a cheater. But it keeps going. Think about it. If you don't want to divorce, and there are many reasons people don't — for the children, for financial reasons, they don't want the stigma of a divorce — this is a way people cope. They have the illusion that no one will know. If I get a divorce, it's a public act and everyone will know that my marriage failed, that I'm a failure. But if I have an affair, I'm able to pretend that everything's O.K. and no one will get hurt. So they find themselves involved in the two relationships and it looks as though it could work. And the guilt seems manageable. And they're not really thinking about the future. They feel like they've got this wonderful, wonderful present, and it seems to solve all their problems.
TIME: Can that last?
It never lasts. It can't. Being in two relationships is inherently unsustainable. It's like a house of cards. And the longer it keeps going, the more likely it is to come crashing down. And then the pressure mounts and the central structure is that three-way tug of war. The person who is cheating is just trying to keep everything stable, the same, not changing anything. The two other people, the lover and the spouse, are putting pressure on, if the spouse knows about it. If the spouse doesn't, she still is wanting more time, more fun. She puts pressure on anyway.
TIME: Do most people get caught?
Yes. Inevitably there are slip-ups. In the stories I hear, they find a gift in a pocket of a coat and they think it's for them and they're so excited, and then they never get the gift. I mean, it's just heartbreaking. So it all blows up eventually.
TIME: Should you confess if you feel guilty about it?
No. I've got to tell you that this is very, very important. I'm a person who is just an advocate of truth. I really will do anything to tell the truth, so it took me a long time to get to the point where I say, just don't tell. Because how does it make a person less guilty to inflict terrible pain on someone? Which is exactly what the confession does. It puts the other person in a permanent state of hurt and grief and loss of trust and an inability to feel safe, and it doesn't alleviate your guilt. Your relationship is dealt a potentially devastating blow. Honesty is great, but it's an abstract moral principle.... The higher moral principle, I believe, is not hurting people. And when you confess to having an affair, you are hurting someone more than you can ever imagine. So I tell people, if you care that much about honesty, figure out who you want to be with, commit to that relationship and devote the rest of your life to making it the most honest relationship you can. But confessing your affair is the kind of honesty that is unnecessarily destructive. There are two huge exceptions to not telling: if you're having an affair and you haven't practiced safe sex, even if it's only one time, you have to tell. Again, the moral principle is minimizing the hurt. But this time, the greatest risk of hurt comes from inflicting a sexually transmitted disease, and I've never seen a relationship recover from that. You also have to tell if discovery is imminent or likely. If you're going to be found out, then it's better for you to be the one to make the confession first.
Before I did this research, I really thought that affairs were fatal for relationships, but they're not. It all depends on how you deal with it, and that's why I have two sections in the book on how to repair and rebuild and heal the hurts. You need all of that. But if the person who has been cheated on has a talent for forgiveness and the cheater is truly sorry — this is one of the surprising findings — many, many people are able to use the affair as a wake-up call and end up so much happier with a relationship that gives them what they need, instead of just being on automatic and pretending that everything's O.K.
TIME: Do people who decide, during an affair, to leave their marriage often end up staying with the person they cheated with, or is that just a way of getting out of the relationship?
There are 17 reasons people have affairs, and you've just talked about one of them. I call it the Ejector Seat affair. People use the relationship as a way to get out of the marriage. That is a real reason. They're afraid to leave the marriage, and they're hoping that an affair will end things. Either the spouse will kick them out or the lover will give them the courage to quit.
TIME: Let's talk about some of the others. What is the See-If affair?
If your motive is to see if what you've been missing in your marriage can be gotten with someone else, and if so does it make as much of a difference as you thought, then you're in a See-If affair.
TIME: What about the Heating Up Your Marriage affair?
This is subconscious for people. They don't actively say, "I'm going to go and heat up my marriage." But unconsciously they're hoping that either the affair itself or their spouse finding out about it will make things more passionate in the relationship.
TIME: Is that a good strategy?
Well, none of these are great strategies, but you have to assume that there's a hidden wisdom. People are coping. People are doing the best they can. There's something they're hungry for and they're not getting it in life. And an affair is a way for people to try to get what they're needing.
TIME: What about the I Just Needed to Indulge Myself affair?
Look, it may not be noble, but the fact is that some people work so hard and they really don't know how to take care of themselves and give to themselves. And an affair occurs to them as the best way they know how to give themselves some pleasure. You don't really think very highly of someone like that, but there are people like that.
TIME: I'm intrigued by the Let's Kill this Relationship and See if It Comes Back to Life affair. What is that?
This happens unconsciously also. The idea is that once an affair is discovered, it will deliver a blow that will either kill your relationship or make it stronger. And it often does. The sex becomes much more passionate for some people.
TIME: The Having Experiences I Missed Out On affair?
This is true for a lot of women who weren't in many relationships before they got married — men as well — [who] feel there are experiences that are important that they missed out on. And an affair is the best way they can think of to get those experiences.
TIME: Let's take the last one. How about a mid-marriage crisis affair?
Without time and attention, marriages get stale or feel full of problems. They're tired and frustrated with their marriages and not knowing what else to do. You have an affair. It's about the stage the marriage is in. And the way we live today. Everyday life is terrible for love. Love needs time, and time is the air love breathes, and people have no time. On the weekends, they're running around schlepping, doing all kinds of things. And where do you have the time you had when you were falling in love? It just doesn't exist for people anymore.
TIME: What do you say to someone who comes to you and says, "I can't choose; I don't know who to stay with"?
If you want to work with me, O.K., first accept the fact that your view of your lover and your spouse are both skewed. Things always seem great with the lover, it's always so romantic and sexy, special, sporadic and, most of all, new and exciting. But guess what? New gets old. I wish I had a nickel for everyone who married their lover and found they replicated what they had with their spouse, with the added poverty of a post-divorce lifestyle. And in the same way, spouses are usually not as bad as they seem. After all, the person who is cheating is withdrawing energy from their marriage and has alleviated their guilt by bad-mouthing or bad-thinking their spouse. But when people work on their marriage and put the lover by the wayside, they're often very surprised at how much things can improve. Another piece of advice I'd say is, lovers are often little more than the crowbar you needed to get out of your marriage, but you don't need to marry the crowbar. That's a mistake a lot of people make. They feel so guilty, they then marry the person they had the affair with.
TIME: Are you still optimistic about marriage after hearing so many bad stories?
Oh, sure. Just because people have problems doesn't mean they can't solve their problems. It's a terrible way to have to wake up, but I work with so many couples who've gone through all of the stages and come out the other end in a much better place than they ever were, especially if they don't tell. And the problem with telling is that you're then taking all of the time in therapy and in your life where you should be focusing on making the relationship the best it can be. You spend it just talking about the past. [But] no one can change the past.
In her 30 years of counseling couples, Mira Kirshenbaum has discerned 17 reasons that people have extramarital affairs. In a near majority of couples, one partner will cheat on the other at some point. In her new book, When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts & Minds of People in Two Relationships (St. Martin's), Kirshenbaum explains the reasons and offers some helpful — and sometimes surprising — advice on how to manage the consequences. TIME senior reporter Andrea Sachs reached Kirshenbaum at her office in Boston:
TIME: Is there a pattern in the way that affairs begin?
Mira Kirshenbaum: People say, "I never meant for this to happen." They're being honest when they say that. Typically, they're in a committed relationship, but they aren't perfectly happy. No one who was perfectly happy in their primary relationship gets into a second one. They're a lot unhappy, or maybe just a little. Maybe they have no plans to cheat. And then the other person somehow floats onto their radar screen. The image that I have is like someone who has been wandering around with a couple of empty wine glasses who suddenly meets someone with a bottle of wine. And so they want a little taste. It starts very innocently. Very slowly they get to know each other. It's often an emotional affair to begin with. Maybe they have long conversations, whatever. However it happens, eventually they realize that they've crossed some sort of line. But they realize it after they've crossed it. And it feels wonderful because it was a line they were hungry to cross. But it also feels terrible because they know it's cheating, and they know they never wanted to be a cheater. But it keeps going. Think about it. If you don't want to divorce, and there are many reasons people don't — for the children, for financial reasons, they don't want the stigma of a divorce — this is a way people cope. They have the illusion that no one will know. If I get a divorce, it's a public act and everyone will know that my marriage failed, that I'm a failure. But if I have an affair, I'm able to pretend that everything's O.K. and no one will get hurt. So they find themselves involved in the two relationships and it looks as though it could work. And the guilt seems manageable. And they're not really thinking about the future. They feel like they've got this wonderful, wonderful present, and it seems to solve all their problems.
TIME: Can that last?
It never lasts. It can't. Being in two relationships is inherently unsustainable. It's like a house of cards. And the longer it keeps going, the more likely it is to come crashing down. And then the pressure mounts and the central structure is that three-way tug of war. The person who is cheating is just trying to keep everything stable, the same, not changing anything. The two other people, the lover and the spouse, are putting pressure on, if the spouse knows about it. If the spouse doesn't, she still is wanting more time, more fun. She puts pressure on anyway.
TIME: Do most people get caught?
Yes. Inevitably there are slip-ups. In the stories I hear, they find a gift in a pocket of a coat and they think it's for them and they're so excited, and then they never get the gift. I mean, it's just heartbreaking. So it all blows up eventually.
TIME: Should you confess if you feel guilty about it?
No. I've got to tell you that this is very, very important. I'm a person who is just an advocate of truth. I really will do anything to tell the truth, so it took me a long time to get to the point where I say, just don't tell. Because how does it make a person less guilty to inflict terrible pain on someone? Which is exactly what the confession does. It puts the other person in a permanent state of hurt and grief and loss of trust and an inability to feel safe, and it doesn't alleviate your guilt. Your relationship is dealt a potentially devastating blow. Honesty is great, but it's an abstract moral principle.... The higher moral principle, I believe, is not hurting people. And when you confess to having an affair, you are hurting someone more than you can ever imagine. So I tell people, if you care that much about honesty, figure out who you want to be with, commit to that relationship and devote the rest of your life to making it the most honest relationship you can. But confessing your affair is the kind of honesty that is unnecessarily destructive. There are two huge exceptions to not telling: if you're having an affair and you haven't practiced safe sex, even if it's only one time, you have to tell. Again, the moral principle is minimizing the hurt. But this time, the greatest risk of hurt comes from inflicting a sexually transmitted disease, and I've never seen a relationship recover from that. You also have to tell if discovery is imminent or likely. If you're going to be found out, then it's better for you to be the one to make the confession first.
Before I did this research, I really thought that affairs were fatal for relationships, but they're not. It all depends on how you deal with it, and that's why I have two sections in the book on how to repair and rebuild and heal the hurts. You need all of that. But if the person who has been cheated on has a talent for forgiveness and the cheater is truly sorry — this is one of the surprising findings — many, many people are able to use the affair as a wake-up call and end up so much happier with a relationship that gives them what they need, instead of just being on automatic and pretending that everything's O.K.
TIME: Do people who decide, during an affair, to leave their marriage often end up staying with the person they cheated with, or is that just a way of getting out of the relationship?
There are 17 reasons people have affairs, and you've just talked about one of them. I call it the Ejector Seat affair. People use the relationship as a way to get out of the marriage. That is a real reason. They're afraid to leave the marriage, and they're hoping that an affair will end things. Either the spouse will kick them out or the lover will give them the courage to quit.
TIME: Let's talk about some of the others. What is the See-If affair?
If your motive is to see if what you've been missing in your marriage can be gotten with someone else, and if so does it make as much of a difference as you thought, then you're in a See-If affair.
TIME: What about the Heating Up Your Marriage affair?
This is subconscious for people. They don't actively say, "I'm going to go and heat up my marriage." But unconsciously they're hoping that either the affair itself or their spouse finding out about it will make things more passionate in the relationship.
TIME: Is that a good strategy?
Well, none of these are great strategies, but you have to assume that there's a hidden wisdom. People are coping. People are doing the best they can. There's something they're hungry for and they're not getting it in life. And an affair is a way for people to try to get what they're needing.
TIME: What about the I Just Needed to Indulge Myself affair?
Look, it may not be noble, but the fact is that some people work so hard and they really don't know how to take care of themselves and give to themselves. And an affair occurs to them as the best way they know how to give themselves some pleasure. You don't really think very highly of someone like that, but there are people like that.
TIME: I'm intrigued by the Let's Kill this Relationship and See if It Comes Back to Life affair. What is that?
This happens unconsciously also. The idea is that once an affair is discovered, it will deliver a blow that will either kill your relationship or make it stronger. And it often does. The sex becomes much more passionate for some people.
TIME: The Having Experiences I Missed Out On affair?
This is true for a lot of women who weren't in many relationships before they got married — men as well — [who] feel there are experiences that are important that they missed out on. And an affair is the best way they can think of to get those experiences.
TIME: Let's take the last one. How about a mid-marriage crisis affair?
Without time and attention, marriages get stale or feel full of problems. They're tired and frustrated with their marriages and not knowing what else to do. You have an affair. It's about the stage the marriage is in. And the way we live today. Everyday life is terrible for love. Love needs time, and time is the air love breathes, and people have no time. On the weekends, they're running around schlepping, doing all kinds of things. And where do you have the time you had when you were falling in love? It just doesn't exist for people anymore.
TIME: What do you say to someone who comes to you and says, "I can't choose; I don't know who to stay with"?
If you want to work with me, O.K., first accept the fact that your view of your lover and your spouse are both skewed. Things always seem great with the lover, it's always so romantic and sexy, special, sporadic and, most of all, new and exciting. But guess what? New gets old. I wish I had a nickel for everyone who married their lover and found they replicated what they had with their spouse, with the added poverty of a post-divorce lifestyle. And in the same way, spouses are usually not as bad as they seem. After all, the person who is cheating is withdrawing energy from their marriage and has alleviated their guilt by bad-mouthing or bad-thinking their spouse. But when people work on their marriage and put the lover by the wayside, they're often very surprised at how much things can improve. Another piece of advice I'd say is, lovers are often little more than the crowbar you needed to get out of your marriage, but you don't need to marry the crowbar. That's a mistake a lot of people make. They feel so guilty, they then marry the person they had the affair with.
TIME: Are you still optimistic about marriage after hearing so many bad stories?
Oh, sure. Just because people have problems doesn't mean they can't solve their problems. It's a terrible way to have to wake up, but I work with so many couples who've gone through all of the stages and come out the other end in a much better place than they ever were, especially if they don't tell. And the problem with telling is that you're then taking all of the time in therapy and in your life where you should be focusing on making the relationship the best it can be. You spend it just talking about the past. [But] no one can change the past.
Wednesday, July 9, 2008
For anyone as annoyed with yippy, ankle-biter dogs as I am
http://news.yahoo.com/s/afp/20080710/od_afp/sciencedogsoffbeat_080710003414
PARIS (AFP) - Small dogs, especially dachshunds, are likelier to attack strangers and other dogs compared with pitbulls, rottweilers and other macho breeds, a study published on Wednesday finds.
US researchers sent questionnaires to the owners of 30 breeds of dogs to assess how their pet responded to a variety of common stimuli and situations.
Dachshunds, chihuahuas and Jack Russell terriers topped the list for aggressiveness, while Brittany spaniels, greyhounds and whippets were the most docile.
The study appears in Applied Animal Behaviour Science, a journal published by the Dutch group Elsevier.
PARIS (AFP) - Small dogs, especially dachshunds, are likelier to attack strangers and other dogs compared with pitbulls, rottweilers and other macho breeds, a study published on Wednesday finds.
US researchers sent questionnaires to the owners of 30 breeds of dogs to assess how their pet responded to a variety of common stimuli and situations.
Dachshunds, chihuahuas and Jack Russell terriers topped the list for aggressiveness, while Brittany spaniels, greyhounds and whippets were the most docile.
The study appears in Applied Animal Behaviour Science, a journal published by the Dutch group Elsevier.
Monday, June 23, 2008
Wednesday, June 18, 2008
LR x 2 - Naked Wii
OK, I am late to the Wii bandwagon having just got one about a month ago. Unfortunately, I have been so busy since I got it I only played it about 15 minutes the day I got it and then it sat collecting dust (I am not much of a gamer).
About a week ago, I was talking to this girl that I have been well, um, talking to. I met her a long time ago. She was a go-go dancer in a club and I got her number while she was working. She has since quit the club scene and has a professional job. We have been talking forever but our schedules just haven't matched up so our relationship hasn't progressed. As luck would have it, we both had a free night and fortunately, we live very close to each other. We decide to meet up at a bar situated in between us. We both walk over and I greet her with a big hug.
We have a few drinks and catch up with small talk. We have spoke on the phone and text each other many times but have only hung out in person briefly so we have a lot of getting to know each other to do.
After we have caught up, I mention that I have been so busy I haven’t even had a chance to play my new Wii. She has never played one before and wants to so we close out the tab and walk back to my house.
I pour us some wine and start up the Wii. We start playing Wii sports and are having lots of fun picking on each other and trying to distract each other.
I win the first couple of games and start the smack talking. She claims I only won because of luck and swears she will win next time. I challenge her to a bet and ask her what she wants if she wins. She says $20. I say sure but if I win, I get to pick the next game and she HAS to play it. She agrees and we kiss on it.
I win again and my choice for next game is ”strip Wii”. The loser of each game has to remove an item of clothing. She agrees and we continue to play and play and play…..until she is naked. I am still pretty much fully clothed and as she is removing her panties, claims that it is unfair that I still have most of my clothes. I decide to even the odds and quickly remove mine too…..
Jump forward a couple of weeks…. I am IMing a girl late one night who I have met through my social circle. We start flirting with each other via IM when I call her a tease. She claims she isn’t. I challenge her to prove it. She asks how and I say come over so I can kick her butt at Wii.
She shows up 30 minutes later. This girl is a former model and an executive at a Dallas based firm. She is also one of the funniest people I have ever met. I invite her in, give her a big hug and ask if she wants anything to drink. She suggests wine so I pour us both a glass and start up the Wii. I can pretty much repeat the previous experience although instead of playing Wii sports, we mostly played trivia. I won again and she ended up naked. She decided to even the odds and started helping me remove my clothes. We were both naked before we even had our first kiss!
I am not sure how repeatable this is for a tactic but so far, I am 2 for 2. Go Wii!!!
About a week ago, I was talking to this girl that I have been well, um, talking to. I met her a long time ago. She was a go-go dancer in a club and I got her number while she was working. She has since quit the club scene and has a professional job. We have been talking forever but our schedules just haven't matched up so our relationship hasn't progressed. As luck would have it, we both had a free night and fortunately, we live very close to each other. We decide to meet up at a bar situated in between us. We both walk over and I greet her with a big hug.
We have a few drinks and catch up with small talk. We have spoke on the phone and text each other many times but have only hung out in person briefly so we have a lot of getting to know each other to do.
After we have caught up, I mention that I have been so busy I haven’t even had a chance to play my new Wii. She has never played one before and wants to so we close out the tab and walk back to my house.
I pour us some wine and start up the Wii. We start playing Wii sports and are having lots of fun picking on each other and trying to distract each other.
I win the first couple of games and start the smack talking. She claims I only won because of luck and swears she will win next time. I challenge her to a bet and ask her what she wants if she wins. She says $20. I say sure but if I win, I get to pick the next game and she HAS to play it. She agrees and we kiss on it.
I win again and my choice for next game is ”strip Wii”. The loser of each game has to remove an item of clothing. She agrees and we continue to play and play and play…..until she is naked. I am still pretty much fully clothed and as she is removing her panties, claims that it is unfair that I still have most of my clothes. I decide to even the odds and quickly remove mine too…..
Jump forward a couple of weeks…. I am IMing a girl late one night who I have met through my social circle. We start flirting with each other via IM when I call her a tease. She claims she isn’t. I challenge her to prove it. She asks how and I say come over so I can kick her butt at Wii.
She shows up 30 minutes later. This girl is a former model and an executive at a Dallas based firm. She is also one of the funniest people I have ever met. I invite her in, give her a big hug and ask if she wants anything to drink. She suggests wine so I pour us both a glass and start up the Wii. I can pretty much repeat the previous experience although instead of playing Wii sports, we mostly played trivia. I won again and she ended up naked. She decided to even the odds and started helping me remove my clothes. We were both naked before we even had our first kiss!
I am not sure how repeatable this is for a tactic but so far, I am 2 for 2. Go Wii!!!
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
FR: The night of the blow outs
A few Saturdays ago I went to an outdoor festival with a couple of buddies and several other guys I didn't know. One of my buddies and I had been to the same festival the night before and it was swarming with hotties. Unfortunately, it was so, so, so damn hot this Saturday that no one was out and we only lasted a couple of hours before we couldn't take it anymore.
We left the festival and rolled to a nearby bar to soak up some cool air conditioning and some cold beer. The place was pretty dead but there was a very hot bartender who had a lot of free time on her hands who was waiting on us.
My buddy Vodka seemed to have caught her attention as she kept giving him eye contact over me. I am always willing to help my buddies out so I didn't try and show him up or hit on her and instead, talked about a girlfriend of mine to disqualify myself and complimented Vodka in front of her at every opportunity.
We hung out there for a few hours and before we left, she started mentioning her myspace page. I have several proven strategies for landing hot bartenders and not one of them involves directly hitting on her so I told Vodka to lay low and let me get her information for him.
I asked her for more details regarding her myspace page and she told me how to find it. It was kind of a "soft close" as she didn't tell me her myspace directly but more of the path to find it. Not great but better than nothing....
We close out our tab and head home. I am very worn out from a long week of work, being in the severe heat for several hours and throwing down a few beers at the bar. However, when I got home, I decided instead of chilling that I was going to go out and push myself to try some new experiences.
There is a strip of bars within walking distance of my house which used to be "the place to be" about 5 years ago but has gone downhill since. I haven't checked out this area since I moved into my new place 6 months ago but with my tired / buzzed state, I thought this would be a perfect opportunity so I wouldn't have to drive. However, I knew I would not be bringing my 'A' game since I was so worn out.
I rolled into the first bar which used to be known for very hot chicks. This time however, I was patted down for weapons and required to pay a cover charge not consistent with this area of town. I decide I am out to experiment so I pay the cover and roll in.
The place is dead. D.E.A.D. dead. I see two women who would have been hot 3 kids ago but the rest of the place is mostly thugs. The tattoo on the face and neck kind of thugs…. I quickly finish my beer and bounce to the next place.
I roll into a somewhat bar / somewhat dance club. In the far corner I see a set of twin black girls. They are obviously models or at least they should be. Guy after guy after guy is hitting on them so I have to obviously be different. I notice that they are talking to a group of guys and I decide that the best way to approach is to open the group.
By the way, I haven't mentioned much about my state. Although I am tired and worn out, I am in good spirits and very pimped out. I am wearing a new shirt and jeans I just purchased in LA that has consistently gotten me many compliments and smiles. All that being said, I was rolling solo which although I don't mind, doesn't put me in the strongest state of mind regarding flirting with girls.
I decide I want company or at least a wing so I text a bi-sexual stripper I know who lives just a few blocks away. She texts back that she would love to see me and will join me soon. I tell her to “holler” when she is coming out and I will let her know which bar I am at on the strip.
I watch the twins a bit longer and realize that one of them is very focused on her group of friends and the other is very much interested in watching the crowd. I deduct that the first one must be in a committed relationship and the other is single. Or at least the second one is much more open to being opened.....
I pick an opening line and approach...one of the guys in the group. He opens and I start talking to him and his buddies. I slowly start working the approachable twin into the conversation but she is being reluctant. She is either very standoffish, not interested in me at all or very shy.
Eventually I eject and head to the back section of the bar where I open a few other groups of girls to entertain myself and get myself into the right frame of mind.
After talking to them for a while, I head back to the twins. Since I have already had a conversation with the one, it is no longer cold but now a warm relationship which from my perspective, is much easier to engage. I give her a side hug and talk to her some more. Again she is being very quiet. I tell my ego that she is just very shy (which she appears to be) and although she is one of the hottest girls I have seen in a long time, I lose interest and move on. A blow out.
I roll into another bar that is packed and playing booty shaking music. Just as I walk in, I see this smoking hot girl who looks and is dressed like a porn star. She is fake in every way (lips, boobs, probably more) but still hot even though I am usually not interested in fake girls. I give her a smile and she smiles back. I continue on my journey to the bar and walk past her. As I walk past, she reaches out and grabs my ass. Seriously! I turn back and fake admonish her and then turn around and continue to the bar.
I order a drink and start talking to the cute bartender. She says she needs a shot. I ask what her favorite is and she says Tuaca. Coincidence! That is mine too! She pours us both one and we slam it. I tell her that was good and I would like another one so she pours us both another one and we slam that one. She doesn’t charge me anything but I give her a big tip and make a lap around the place.
I spy a really attractive, girl-next-door kind of girl not far from me. I am more into her than I am into the over-the-top porn star girl. I go direct and open her. She is receptive and we start a conversation. We talk for a while when a guy comes up and puts his arm around her. I ask how they know each other and he says that he is her fiancé. She denies that they are engaged and they get into an argument. I decide that this scene isn’t for me and start to walk away. She grabs my arm and tells me not to go. I hang for a while as they bicker but the vibe is gone for me so I bolt. Another blow out.
I head back to the porn star. I open her with a comment about her grabbing my ass. In hind sight, this was a very lame way to re-open. I should have opened stronger. She now has this attitude, probably because I was unresponsive to her grabbing my ass so her ego is hurt, and she starts being standoffish and bitchy to me. I am sure that I now seem like any one of the 100 guys who have hit on her tonight and I am not in the mood to push through any walls she has up so I eject. Blow out.
I walk back to the bar and do another shot with the bartender. And another. And another. I am now feeling absolutely NO pain and still find the bartender cute so I tell her we should hang sometime. She agrees and I ask for her number. She tells me she can’t give out her number as her boyfriend checks her phone records and oh by the way, she is pregnant but plans to take car e of it soon. Um yeah…. doing shots, has a boyfriend and is pregnant. I want no part of her so I eject.
As I walk into the next bar, I spot this very tiny, very petite, very cute Asian girl with a sexy nose piercing. I am buzzing and feeling more aggressive than normal so I just open her directly with “you’re very cute!”. She responds and starts talking to me but her friends quickly grab her arm and pull her away from me. I didn’t even realize she was with this big group of girls or I would have tried to win them over before getting so involved in conversation with Asian. I also missed a pick up 101 step by not asking who she was at the bar with. Shame on me. Blow out.
I make a lap around this new bar and open some random groups of guys and girls to entertain myself. I am really not feeling this bar so I bolt and go to another one. It is near closing time by this point so this is my last bar of the night. I order a beer and make a lap to check out the scene. It is a dance club and most everyone seems coupled up. Nothing really catches my attention so I finish my beer and decide to head home.
I walk outside and leaning against the wall outside is this cute redhead. She hollers that “I am gorgeous”. I turn and start talking to her. She is not really my type physically so I am toying with her in a flirty way. She is still cute but I normally am attracted to petite girls – (i.e. size 0 or 2) and she is about a size 6. She is not overweight by any means but a little big boned for my normal type. However, at my age, I now value intelligence, values, drive and sense of humor over 100% looks so I give her a chance.
I ask what she has going for her that would make me interested. She said she is an amazing kisser. Um, OK. A make out ensues and yes, she is an amazing kisser. One of the best actually.
We make out for a bit and then I tell her I need to get home. We exchange numbers and then I walk home. As I am walking home, I booty call the bi-sexual stripper who I had text earlier and who lives nearby. She texts back that she is in for the night so I continue heading home. As I am drifting off to sleep on my couch, my phone starts blowing up from the girl I made out with. Below is our text war:
Girl 2:19 am "Hey"
Twitchy: “Hey sexy, what’s up?”
Girl 2:22 am "Come meet up"
Twitchy: “Nah, been a long week. I am in for the night”
Girl 2:26 am "Lame... wanna smooch u"
Twitchy: “LOL! You are too much!”
Girl 2:30 am "Heyyyyyy come over!"
Twitchy: “Too drunk to drive”
Girl 2:31 am "Okkkk....call me tomorrow"
Twitchy: “Will do. Night!”
Girl 2:33 am "OK....Where you be boo?!? I will come to you"
Twitchy: “I live near the bar where we met”
Girl 2:34 am "Where??? I wanna smooch u!"
Twitchy: “You are such a Dork! Go to bed!”
Girl 2:36 am "I love that U call me dork!!!"
Twitchy: “Dork! Dork! Dork! Go take a cold shower!”
Girl 2:37 am "Love it! Let's meet up"
Twitchy: “Do I need to get you some new batteries for your rabbit?”
Girl 3:16 am "Come over...let's meet up"
Twitchy: “No can do. Night”
Girl 3:50 am "Its cool....call me tomorrow. I would love to hang out"
Twitchy: “Sure”
Girl 3:53 am "We went dancing....the boys were crazy....all over me....come see me! I really wanna smooch u!"
Twitchy: “Zzzzz”
Most guys would have of course taken this girl up on her very obvious desire to get laid. However, she wasn’t exactly my type physically, I really didn’t know her, I can and do get laid anytime and I don’t want to ruin my brand of being a successful, fun, selective guy so I turned her down. Right or wrong, I like to think strategically vs. tactically and am currently writing an ebook about this in much more detail.
Although I got blown out by all of the girls I wanted this night, I am now motivated to succeed. No one is successful every time and now it is my mission to dominate this strip of bars near my house.
Lessons learned:
- When there are just a few hot girls out, I need more demonstrate more value or approach more indirectly to avoid seeming like every other guy who is hitting on them. Their “bitch shields” are high.
- A Wing would definitely help
- Remember, getting blown out can be a good thing. It can save you from wasting time with the wrong girl or the girl who thinks you are the wrong guy.
In reality, there are only 6 possible outcomes to any interaction. You have a lot of influence into which outcome occurs:
1 – Become friends
2 – Get blown out immediately
3 - You eject after disqualifying her
4 - Slow burn and fizzle – you end up losing 30 minutes (or more) of your life
5 – You both have attraction which leads to a small close (number, email, myspace, etc)
6 – You both have attraction and escalate - bounce or insta-date
P.s. I am making progress with the hot bartender from the first bar we went to after the festival. As it turns out, she wasn’t into Vodka after all. I connected with her on myspace and after getting approval from Vodka, I got her phone number (my friends come before any random girl). I am progressing this one slowly mostly because I am very busy right now but also to not seem like every other guy who is aggressively hitting on her and thus chase her away. Hopefully there will be more to report later….
We left the festival and rolled to a nearby bar to soak up some cool air conditioning and some cold beer. The place was pretty dead but there was a very hot bartender who had a lot of free time on her hands who was waiting on us.
My buddy Vodka seemed to have caught her attention as she kept giving him eye contact over me. I am always willing to help my buddies out so I didn't try and show him up or hit on her and instead, talked about a girlfriend of mine to disqualify myself and complimented Vodka in front of her at every opportunity.
We hung out there for a few hours and before we left, she started mentioning her myspace page. I have several proven strategies for landing hot bartenders and not one of them involves directly hitting on her so I told Vodka to lay low and let me get her information for him.
I asked her for more details regarding her myspace page and she told me how to find it. It was kind of a "soft close" as she didn't tell me her myspace directly but more of the path to find it. Not great but better than nothing....
We close out our tab and head home. I am very worn out from a long week of work, being in the severe heat for several hours and throwing down a few beers at the bar. However, when I got home, I decided instead of chilling that I was going to go out and push myself to try some new experiences.
There is a strip of bars within walking distance of my house which used to be "the place to be" about 5 years ago but has gone downhill since. I haven't checked out this area since I moved into my new place 6 months ago but with my tired / buzzed state, I thought this would be a perfect opportunity so I wouldn't have to drive. However, I knew I would not be bringing my 'A' game since I was so worn out.
I rolled into the first bar which used to be known for very hot chicks. This time however, I was patted down for weapons and required to pay a cover charge not consistent with this area of town. I decide I am out to experiment so I pay the cover and roll in.
The place is dead. D.E.A.D. dead. I see two women who would have been hot 3 kids ago but the rest of the place is mostly thugs. The tattoo on the face and neck kind of thugs…. I quickly finish my beer and bounce to the next place.
I roll into a somewhat bar / somewhat dance club. In the far corner I see a set of twin black girls. They are obviously models or at least they should be. Guy after guy after guy is hitting on them so I have to obviously be different. I notice that they are talking to a group of guys and I decide that the best way to approach is to open the group.
By the way, I haven't mentioned much about my state. Although I am tired and worn out, I am in good spirits and very pimped out. I am wearing a new shirt and jeans I just purchased in LA that has consistently gotten me many compliments and smiles. All that being said, I was rolling solo which although I don't mind, doesn't put me in the strongest state of mind regarding flirting with girls.
I decide I want company or at least a wing so I text a bi-sexual stripper I know who lives just a few blocks away. She texts back that she would love to see me and will join me soon. I tell her to “holler” when she is coming out and I will let her know which bar I am at on the strip.
I watch the twins a bit longer and realize that one of them is very focused on her group of friends and the other is very much interested in watching the crowd. I deduct that the first one must be in a committed relationship and the other is single. Or at least the second one is much more open to being opened.....
I pick an opening line and approach...one of the guys in the group. He opens and I start talking to him and his buddies. I slowly start working the approachable twin into the conversation but she is being reluctant. She is either very standoffish, not interested in me at all or very shy.
Eventually I eject and head to the back section of the bar where I open a few other groups of girls to entertain myself and get myself into the right frame of mind.
After talking to them for a while, I head back to the twins. Since I have already had a conversation with the one, it is no longer cold but now a warm relationship which from my perspective, is much easier to engage. I give her a side hug and talk to her some more. Again she is being very quiet. I tell my ego that she is just very shy (which she appears to be) and although she is one of the hottest girls I have seen in a long time, I lose interest and move on. A blow out.
I roll into another bar that is packed and playing booty shaking music. Just as I walk in, I see this smoking hot girl who looks and is dressed like a porn star. She is fake in every way (lips, boobs, probably more) but still hot even though I am usually not interested in fake girls. I give her a smile and she smiles back. I continue on my journey to the bar and walk past her. As I walk past, she reaches out and grabs my ass. Seriously! I turn back and fake admonish her and then turn around and continue to the bar.
I order a drink and start talking to the cute bartender. She says she needs a shot. I ask what her favorite is and she says Tuaca. Coincidence! That is mine too! She pours us both one and we slam it. I tell her that was good and I would like another one so she pours us both another one and we slam that one. She doesn’t charge me anything but I give her a big tip and make a lap around the place.
I spy a really attractive, girl-next-door kind of girl not far from me. I am more into her than I am into the over-the-top porn star girl. I go direct and open her. She is receptive and we start a conversation. We talk for a while when a guy comes up and puts his arm around her. I ask how they know each other and he says that he is her fiancé. She denies that they are engaged and they get into an argument. I decide that this scene isn’t for me and start to walk away. She grabs my arm and tells me not to go. I hang for a while as they bicker but the vibe is gone for me so I bolt. Another blow out.
I head back to the porn star. I open her with a comment about her grabbing my ass. In hind sight, this was a very lame way to re-open. I should have opened stronger. She now has this attitude, probably because I was unresponsive to her grabbing my ass so her ego is hurt, and she starts being standoffish and bitchy to me. I am sure that I now seem like any one of the 100 guys who have hit on her tonight and I am not in the mood to push through any walls she has up so I eject. Blow out.
I walk back to the bar and do another shot with the bartender. And another. And another. I am now feeling absolutely NO pain and still find the bartender cute so I tell her we should hang sometime. She agrees and I ask for her number. She tells me she can’t give out her number as her boyfriend checks her phone records and oh by the way, she is pregnant but plans to take car e of it soon. Um yeah…. doing shots, has a boyfriend and is pregnant. I want no part of her so I eject.
As I walk into the next bar, I spot this very tiny, very petite, very cute Asian girl with a sexy nose piercing. I am buzzing and feeling more aggressive than normal so I just open her directly with “you’re very cute!”. She responds and starts talking to me but her friends quickly grab her arm and pull her away from me. I didn’t even realize she was with this big group of girls or I would have tried to win them over before getting so involved in conversation with Asian. I also missed a pick up 101 step by not asking who she was at the bar with. Shame on me. Blow out.
I make a lap around this new bar and open some random groups of guys and girls to entertain myself. I am really not feeling this bar so I bolt and go to another one. It is near closing time by this point so this is my last bar of the night. I order a beer and make a lap to check out the scene. It is a dance club and most everyone seems coupled up. Nothing really catches my attention so I finish my beer and decide to head home.
I walk outside and leaning against the wall outside is this cute redhead. She hollers that “I am gorgeous”. I turn and start talking to her. She is not really my type physically so I am toying with her in a flirty way. She is still cute but I normally am attracted to petite girls – (i.e. size 0 or 2) and she is about a size 6. She is not overweight by any means but a little big boned for my normal type. However, at my age, I now value intelligence, values, drive and sense of humor over 100% looks so I give her a chance.
I ask what she has going for her that would make me interested. She said she is an amazing kisser. Um, OK. A make out ensues and yes, she is an amazing kisser. One of the best actually.
We make out for a bit and then I tell her I need to get home. We exchange numbers and then I walk home. As I am walking home, I booty call the bi-sexual stripper who I had text earlier and who lives nearby. She texts back that she is in for the night so I continue heading home. As I am drifting off to sleep on my couch, my phone starts blowing up from the girl I made out with. Below is our text war:
Girl 2:19 am "Hey"
Twitchy: “Hey sexy, what’s up?”
Girl 2:22 am "Come meet up"
Twitchy: “Nah, been a long week. I am in for the night”
Girl 2:26 am "Lame... wanna smooch u"
Twitchy: “LOL! You are too much!”
Girl 2:30 am "Heyyyyyy come over!"
Twitchy: “Too drunk to drive”
Girl 2:31 am "Okkkk....call me tomorrow"
Twitchy: “Will do. Night!”
Girl 2:33 am "OK....Where you be boo?!? I will come to you"
Twitchy: “I live near the bar where we met”
Girl 2:34 am "Where??? I wanna smooch u!"
Twitchy: “You are such a Dork! Go to bed!”
Girl 2:36 am "I love that U call me dork!!!"
Twitchy: “Dork! Dork! Dork! Go take a cold shower!”
Girl 2:37 am "Love it! Let's meet up"
Twitchy: “Do I need to get you some new batteries for your rabbit?”
Girl 3:16 am "Come over...let's meet up"
Twitchy: “No can do. Night”
Girl 3:50 am "Its cool....call me tomorrow. I would love to hang out"
Twitchy: “Sure”
Girl 3:53 am "We went dancing....the boys were crazy....all over me....come see me! I really wanna smooch u!"
Twitchy: “Zzzzz”
Most guys would have of course taken this girl up on her very obvious desire to get laid. However, she wasn’t exactly my type physically, I really didn’t know her, I can and do get laid anytime and I don’t want to ruin my brand of being a successful, fun, selective guy so I turned her down. Right or wrong, I like to think strategically vs. tactically and am currently writing an ebook about this in much more detail.
Although I got blown out by all of the girls I wanted this night, I am now motivated to succeed. No one is successful every time and now it is my mission to dominate this strip of bars near my house.
Lessons learned:
- When there are just a few hot girls out, I need more demonstrate more value or approach more indirectly to avoid seeming like every other guy who is hitting on them. Their “bitch shields” are high.
- A Wing would definitely help
- Remember, getting blown out can be a good thing. It can save you from wasting time with the wrong girl or the girl who thinks you are the wrong guy.
In reality, there are only 6 possible outcomes to any interaction. You have a lot of influence into which outcome occurs:
1 – Become friends
2 – Get blown out immediately
3 - You eject after disqualifying her
4 - Slow burn and fizzle – you end up losing 30 minutes (or more) of your life
5 – You both have attraction which leads to a small close (number, email, myspace, etc)
6 – You both have attraction and escalate - bounce or insta-date
P.s. I am making progress with the hot bartender from the first bar we went to after the festival. As it turns out, she wasn’t into Vodka after all. I connected with her on myspace and after getting approval from Vodka, I got her phone number (my friends come before any random girl). I am progressing this one slowly mostly because I am very busy right now but also to not seem like every other guy who is aggressively hitting on her and thus chase her away. Hopefully there will be more to report later….
Sleep facts
If you are anything like me, you often find that there are just too many things to do in a day and that all too often, a good night's sleep is sacrificed.
Here is an interesting article from Time about how much sleep you really need.
How much sleep do you really need?
Here is an interesting article from Time about how much sleep you really need.
How much sleep do you really need?
Friday, June 6, 2008
More alcohol means fewer joint problems
http://www.wlwt.com/health/16507155/detail.html?rss=cin&psp=irresistible
Tuesday, June 3, 2008
Wednesday, May 28, 2008
Judge not, that ye be not judged
http://www.latimes.com/features/health/la-sci-lead28-2008may28,0,6600780.story
Lead exposure in children linked to violent crime
A study finds that even low levels can permanently damage the brain. The research also shows that exposure is a continuing problem despite efforts to minimize it.
By Thomas H. Maugh II and Marla Cone, Los Angeles Times Staff Writers
May 28, 2008
The first study to follow lead-exposed children from before birth into adulthood has shown that even relatively low levels of lead permanently damage the brain and are linked to higher numbers of arrests, particularly for violent crime.
Earlier studies linking lead to such problems used indirect measures of both lead and criminality, and critics have argued that socioeconomic and other factors may be responsible for the observed effects.
But by measuring blood levels of lead before birth and during the first seven years of life, then correlating the levels with arrest records and brain size, Cincinnati researchers have produced the strongest evidence yet that lead plays a major role in crime.
The researchers also found that lead exposure is a continuing problem despite the efforts of the federal government and cities to minimize exposure.
The average lead levels in the study "unfortunately are still seen in many thousands of children throughout the United States," said Philip J. Landrigan, director of the Center for Children's Health and the Environment at the Mount Sinai School of Medicine in New York.
The link between criminal behavior and lead exposure was found among even the least-contaminated children in the study, who were exposed to amounts of lead similar to what the average U.S. child is exposed to today, said Landrigan, who was not involved in the study.
"People will sometimes say, 'This is in the past. We are cleaning up lead. We don't have lead problems anymore,' " said criminologist Deborah W. Denno of Fordham University in New York, who also was not involved in the study. "The Ohio study says this is still a big problem."
Nationwide, about 310,000 children between the ages of 1 and 5 have blood lead levels above the federal guideline of 10 micrograms per deciliter, and experts suspect that many times that number have lower levels that are still dangerous.
"It is a national disgrace that so many children continue to be exposed at levels known to be neurotoxic," said neurologist David C. Bellinger of Harvard Medical School, who wrote an editorial accompanying the study published in the online journal PLoS Medicine.
Although some urban soil is still contaminated with lead from gasoline, 80% of lead exposure now comes from houses built before 1978. Paint in such houses can contain as much as 50% lead, and even if it has been covered by newer, lead-free paint, it still flakes or rubs off.
About 38 million U.S. homes, 40% of the nation's housing, still contain lead-based paint, according to the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development. The problem is particularly acute in urban areas, which typically have older housing that has not been renovated.
More recently, parents and authorities have become concerned about increasing levels of lead-based paint in toys imported from China.
Researchers have long known that lead exposure reduces IQ by damaging brain cells in children during their early years.
It is also known that lead increases children's distractibility, impulsiveness and restlessness and shortens their attention span, all factors considered precursors of aggressive or violent behavior.
A landmark 1990 paper by Denno linked lead to increases in criminal behavior, but the children in the study were not tested for lead levels. The diagnoses were based on their physicians' evaluation, Denno said.
The Cincinnati lead study enrolled 376 pregnant women in Cincinnati's inner city between 1979 and 1984, measuring their blood lead levels during pregnancy and the children's levels during their first seven years of life.
In the new study, environmental health researcher Kim N. Dietrich of the University of Cincinnati College of Medicine studied 250 of the original group, correlating their lead levels with adult criminal arrest records from Hamilton County, Ohio.
He and his colleagues found that 55% of the subjects (63% of males) had been arrested and that the average was five arrests between the ages of 18 and 24.
The higher the blood lead level at any time in childhood, the greater the likelihood of arrests. "The strongest association was with violent criminal activity -- murder, rape, domestic violence, assault, robbery and possession of weapons," Dietrich said.
Blood lead levels in the children ranged from 4 to 37 micrograms per deciliter.
The researchers found, for example, that every 5-microgram-per-deciliter increase in blood lead levels at age 6 was accompanied by a 50% increase in the incidence of violent crime later in life. Confirming previous findings, the effect of lead was strongest in males, who had an arrest rate 4 1/2 times that of females.
In a related study, spectroscopist Kim M. Cecil of Cincinnati Children's Hospital Medical Center and her colleagues examined a "representative sample" of 157 members of the same group using whole-brain MRI scans. They found that those with the highest blood levels of lead during childhood had the smallest brain volume.
On average, the brains of those in the study were about 1.2% smaller than normal. The most affected regions of the brain were those regulating decision making, impulse control, attention, error detection, task completion and reward-based decision making.
"The most important message is that lead affects brain volume, independent of demographic and social factors that are often used to explain away poor outcomes" in life, Cecil said. "This is independent biological evidence showing that the brain is affected by lead."
Lead exposure in children linked to violent crime
A study finds that even low levels can permanently damage the brain. The research also shows that exposure is a continuing problem despite efforts to minimize it.
By Thomas H. Maugh II and Marla Cone, Los Angeles Times Staff Writers
May 28, 2008
The first study to follow lead-exposed children from before birth into adulthood has shown that even relatively low levels of lead permanently damage the brain and are linked to higher numbers of arrests, particularly for violent crime.
Earlier studies linking lead to such problems used indirect measures of both lead and criminality, and critics have argued that socioeconomic and other factors may be responsible for the observed effects.
But by measuring blood levels of lead before birth and during the first seven years of life, then correlating the levels with arrest records and brain size, Cincinnati researchers have produced the strongest evidence yet that lead plays a major role in crime.
The researchers also found that lead exposure is a continuing problem despite the efforts of the federal government and cities to minimize exposure.
The average lead levels in the study "unfortunately are still seen in many thousands of children throughout the United States," said Philip J. Landrigan, director of the Center for Children's Health and the Environment at the Mount Sinai School of Medicine in New York.
The link between criminal behavior and lead exposure was found among even the least-contaminated children in the study, who were exposed to amounts of lead similar to what the average U.S. child is exposed to today, said Landrigan, who was not involved in the study.
"People will sometimes say, 'This is in the past. We are cleaning up lead. We don't have lead problems anymore,' " said criminologist Deborah W. Denno of Fordham University in New York, who also was not involved in the study. "The Ohio study says this is still a big problem."
Nationwide, about 310,000 children between the ages of 1 and 5 have blood lead levels above the federal guideline of 10 micrograms per deciliter, and experts suspect that many times that number have lower levels that are still dangerous.
"It is a national disgrace that so many children continue to be exposed at levels known to be neurotoxic," said neurologist David C. Bellinger of Harvard Medical School, who wrote an editorial accompanying the study published in the online journal PLoS Medicine.
Although some urban soil is still contaminated with lead from gasoline, 80% of lead exposure now comes from houses built before 1978. Paint in such houses can contain as much as 50% lead, and even if it has been covered by newer, lead-free paint, it still flakes or rubs off.
About 38 million U.S. homes, 40% of the nation's housing, still contain lead-based paint, according to the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development. The problem is particularly acute in urban areas, which typically have older housing that has not been renovated.
More recently, parents and authorities have become concerned about increasing levels of lead-based paint in toys imported from China.
Researchers have long known that lead exposure reduces IQ by damaging brain cells in children during their early years.
It is also known that lead increases children's distractibility, impulsiveness and restlessness and shortens their attention span, all factors considered precursors of aggressive or violent behavior.
A landmark 1990 paper by Denno linked lead to increases in criminal behavior, but the children in the study were not tested for lead levels. The diagnoses were based on their physicians' evaluation, Denno said.
The Cincinnati lead study enrolled 376 pregnant women in Cincinnati's inner city between 1979 and 1984, measuring their blood lead levels during pregnancy and the children's levels during their first seven years of life.
In the new study, environmental health researcher Kim N. Dietrich of the University of Cincinnati College of Medicine studied 250 of the original group, correlating their lead levels with adult criminal arrest records from Hamilton County, Ohio.
He and his colleagues found that 55% of the subjects (63% of males) had been arrested and that the average was five arrests between the ages of 18 and 24.
The higher the blood lead level at any time in childhood, the greater the likelihood of arrests. "The strongest association was with violent criminal activity -- murder, rape, domestic violence, assault, robbery and possession of weapons," Dietrich said.
Blood lead levels in the children ranged from 4 to 37 micrograms per deciliter.
The researchers found, for example, that every 5-microgram-per-deciliter increase in blood lead levels at age 6 was accompanied by a 50% increase in the incidence of violent crime later in life. Confirming previous findings, the effect of lead was strongest in males, who had an arrest rate 4 1/2 times that of females.
In a related study, spectroscopist Kim M. Cecil of Cincinnati Children's Hospital Medical Center and her colleagues examined a "representative sample" of 157 members of the same group using whole-brain MRI scans. They found that those with the highest blood levels of lead during childhood had the smallest brain volume.
On average, the brains of those in the study were about 1.2% smaller than normal. The most affected regions of the brain were those regulating decision making, impulse control, attention, error detection, task completion and reward-based decision making.
"The most important message is that lead affects brain volume, independent of demographic and social factors that are often used to explain away poor outcomes" in life, Cecil said. "This is independent biological evidence showing that the brain is affected by lead."
Tuesday, May 27, 2008
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5 Principles for Guarding Maiden Chastity
http://www.weirdasianews.com/2008/05/07/modern-chinese-chastity-motto/
Thursday, May 1, 2008
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
New Dallas Lair
There is yet another split in the Dallas PUA community. There are now 3 community boards.....however, the latest is the definitely the most active. If you are from Dallas and are unaware of it, check out the latest PUA board at www.dallaslair.org.
PUA Sanctuary
OK, there is a new message board for the PUA community that is SO worth checking out. No politics, experts sharing advice.....check it out!
www.puasanctuary.com
www.puasanctuary.com
LR: It's really warm in here, right?
There is this Asian girl I have been talking to for a while. She found me on myspace when her and her boyfriend at the time got into a big fight. She messaged me that she liked my profile, wasn't hitting on me because she had a boyfriend and just wanted to say hi.
Her and I have stayed in touch through myspace periodically over the last year. Recently, I have decided to amp up my social circle game so I reached out to her again and got her phone number. This week, I check out her profile and it now shows her status as "single". It turns out, the boyfriend is recently out of the picture....
Today, Tuesday, I start a text war with her. I quickly bring it sexual around lunch time and we continue sending each other naughty texts all afternoon long.
About 8pm, I hit her up with "All of these naughty texts have made me very horny. You are such a tease!"
She texts back, "I know, I am horny too."
I text her my address and then don't respond to any of her texts that ask why I sent her my address, if I am serious, etc.
Sure enough, about 30 minutes later there is a knock on my door.
I invite her in and we start chatting. It turns out, neither of us have watched this week's episode of Desperate Housewives yet so I turn it on and we watch the show and drink wine.
As the show is wrapping up, she mentions that the wine is starting to make her hot. We start making out and she climbs on my lap. We start making out when she starts rubbing Lil Twitch (I should mention that I was in sweatpants and a tshirt so she had easy access).
She then suggests that "It's really warm in here, right?" and takes off her shirt. She is totally being the sexual aggressor which is how I like 'em!!! Things proceed from there and she is now passed out naked on my couch while I type up this LR and watch The Colbert show.
A funny mention....I reach into my stack of condoms when the time is right and find one that were given to me on St Patty's day by some promotional girls. They are bright, bright green with an advertisement etched into them. Very interesting watching a drink ad go in and out of her! Too funny!
Her and I have stayed in touch through myspace periodically over the last year. Recently, I have decided to amp up my social circle game so I reached out to her again and got her phone number. This week, I check out her profile and it now shows her status as "single". It turns out, the boyfriend is recently out of the picture....
Today, Tuesday, I start a text war with her. I quickly bring it sexual around lunch time and we continue sending each other naughty texts all afternoon long.
About 8pm, I hit her up with "All of these naughty texts have made me very horny. You are such a tease!"
She texts back, "I know, I am horny too."
I text her my address and then don't respond to any of her texts that ask why I sent her my address, if I am serious, etc.
Sure enough, about 30 minutes later there is a knock on my door.
I invite her in and we start chatting. It turns out, neither of us have watched this week's episode of Desperate Housewives yet so I turn it on and we watch the show and drink wine.
As the show is wrapping up, she mentions that the wine is starting to make her hot. We start making out and she climbs on my lap. We start making out when she starts rubbing Lil Twitch (I should mention that I was in sweatpants and a tshirt so she had easy access).
She then suggests that "It's really warm in here, right?" and takes off her shirt. She is totally being the sexual aggressor which is how I like 'em!!! Things proceed from there and she is now passed out naked on my couch while I type up this LR and watch The Colbert show.
A funny mention....I reach into my stack of condoms when the time is right and find one that were given to me on St Patty's day by some promotional girls. They are bright, bright green with an advertisement etched into them. Very interesting watching a drink ad go in and out of her! Too funny!
LR: We didn't really have to go out, you know?
So I have been chatting up this really hot, latina for several months. We met twice in the same night about 6 months ago.
The first time we met, I saw her dancing. I was with my boys and I pointed out that she was just my type physically. After doing this, I went over and opened her. I talked to her for a bit but she was with a big group of girls and they were all leaving so she bolted before I could really establish rapport or get her number.
My boys and I went to an after hours party later that night. I ended up in the bathroom with a girl from the party within about 15 minutes of arriving who was nicely relieving me of my clothes when there was an insistent pounding on the bathroom door that was rudely interrupting me and my new friend.
I eventually open the door and it is my usual wing. He has found my "perfect girl" and wants me to follow him. I ditch my new friend and follow my buddy who introduces me to the same girl I opened earlier. He didn't remember that it was the same girl but knew she was my type.
This is too much of a coincidence! We talk the night away and this time her friends are being supportive of me instead of cock blocking me as I made sure to bring them into the interaction.
The night ends, I get a quick make out and her number and have my friends take my drunk ass home.
The latina and I talk for a while but never really meet up as she lives more than an hour away from me and her and we normally never make it into each other's side of town.
Finally, she says that we need to meet up again and asks for my address. I give it to her and we tentatively plan to get together Saturday night.
On Thursday, one of the girls I am seeing tells me she bought me tickets to a local golf tournament which is a big social event in Dallas. I am game and invite one of my buddies, Vodka, to come along as she has one of her girlfriends coming too.
We show up and drink all day and towards the end of the day, my girl starts to become drama so my buddy and I ditch her and her friend. We wander for a while and finally I see a HOT Asian girl that I just have to approach. I ask my buddy for an opening line for a challenge and he tells me I have to try and buy her with some of my drink tickets. I approach her and tell her I am going to buy her attention with the final 3 remaining drink tickets I have left. She laughs and the interaction goes well and I get her number.
As I am flirting with her, my girl sees me and comes charging over and pulls me away from the HOT Asian. Her and I battle for a bit and then all 4 of us decide it is time to leave.
I get home and decide I need sleep after being in the sun and drinking all day. As I lay down, I get a text from the hispanic girl asking if she can see me. I tell her sure, jump out of bed, shower and down an energy drink.
She shows up and I greet her with a kiss but she is a little standoff-ish. We haven't seen each other in months and although we have talked / text dirty things to each other many, many times, she is being shy.
I give her the tour of my house, offer her a glass of wine and then recommend that we walk down to some local bars for a few drinks. She agrees and we spend the next few hours bar hopping.
I am being sure to kino and frame our interaction sexually and we start stealing kisses from each other. I take her to a bar that has a huge beer garden. We find a secluded corner and she climbs on me and we proceed to make out hard core. Until it starts raining.....
We run back to my place in the rain and I tell her she needs to get out of her wet clothes. She agrees and accepts my help.
After an energetic night (and morning) later, she tells me that I really didn't have to take her out drinking. She was horny all day and just wanted to come over and jump me.
"We didn't really have to go out, you know? I would have been fine just staying in, drinking wine and having wild sex."
The first time we met, I saw her dancing. I was with my boys and I pointed out that she was just my type physically. After doing this, I went over and opened her. I talked to her for a bit but she was with a big group of girls and they were all leaving so she bolted before I could really establish rapport or get her number.
My boys and I went to an after hours party later that night. I ended up in the bathroom with a girl from the party within about 15 minutes of arriving who was nicely relieving me of my clothes when there was an insistent pounding on the bathroom door that was rudely interrupting me and my new friend.
I eventually open the door and it is my usual wing. He has found my "perfect girl" and wants me to follow him. I ditch my new friend and follow my buddy who introduces me to the same girl I opened earlier. He didn't remember that it was the same girl but knew she was my type.
This is too much of a coincidence! We talk the night away and this time her friends are being supportive of me instead of cock blocking me as I made sure to bring them into the interaction.
The night ends, I get a quick make out and her number and have my friends take my drunk ass home.
The latina and I talk for a while but never really meet up as she lives more than an hour away from me and her and we normally never make it into each other's side of town.
Finally, she says that we need to meet up again and asks for my address. I give it to her and we tentatively plan to get together Saturday night.
On Thursday, one of the girls I am seeing tells me she bought me tickets to a local golf tournament which is a big social event in Dallas. I am game and invite one of my buddies, Vodka, to come along as she has one of her girlfriends coming too.
We show up and drink all day and towards the end of the day, my girl starts to become drama so my buddy and I ditch her and her friend. We wander for a while and finally I see a HOT Asian girl that I just have to approach. I ask my buddy for an opening line for a challenge and he tells me I have to try and buy her with some of my drink tickets. I approach her and tell her I am going to buy her attention with the final 3 remaining drink tickets I have left. She laughs and the interaction goes well and I get her number.
As I am flirting with her, my girl sees me and comes charging over and pulls me away from the HOT Asian. Her and I battle for a bit and then all 4 of us decide it is time to leave.
I get home and decide I need sleep after being in the sun and drinking all day. As I lay down, I get a text from the hispanic girl asking if she can see me. I tell her sure, jump out of bed, shower and down an energy drink.
She shows up and I greet her with a kiss but she is a little standoff-ish. We haven't seen each other in months and although we have talked / text dirty things to each other many, many times, she is being shy.
I give her the tour of my house, offer her a glass of wine and then recommend that we walk down to some local bars for a few drinks. She agrees and we spend the next few hours bar hopping.
I am being sure to kino and frame our interaction sexually and we start stealing kisses from each other. I take her to a bar that has a huge beer garden. We find a secluded corner and she climbs on me and we proceed to make out hard core. Until it starts raining.....
We run back to my place in the rain and I tell her she needs to get out of her wet clothes. She agrees and accepts my help.
After an energetic night (and morning) later, she tells me that I really didn't have to take her out drinking. She was horny all day and just wanted to come over and jump me.
"We didn't really have to go out, you know? I would have been fine just staying in, drinking wine and having wild sex."
Thursday, April 17, 2008
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Quote of the day
There are three ways you can get to the top of a tree: sit on an acorn; make friends with a bird; climb it.
- Unknown
- Unknown
Tuesday, April 1, 2008
Wednesday, March 19, 2008
Body language communication
One of the best examples of communication through body language I have seen in a while is the lastest Gap commercial where the hot/cute, petite black girl flirts with 3 handsome white guys. No words are said in the entire commercial but the black girl's facial expressions are priceless and clearly communicate her intent.
It would behoove any guy or girl having trouble communicating with members of the opposite sex to watch this commercial over and over and learn from it.
It would behoove any guy or girl having trouble communicating with members of the opposite sex to watch this commercial over and over and learn from it.
Thursday, March 13, 2008
Philosophies on sex
I believe that sex is one of the most beautiful, natural, wholesome things that money can buy.
- Tom Clancy
You know "that look" that women get when they want sex? Me neither.
- Steve Martin
Having sex is like playing bridge. If you don't have a good partner, you better have a good hand.
- Woody Allen
Bisexuality immediately doubles your chance for a date on Saturday night.
- Rodney Dangerfield
Sex at age 90 is like trying to shoot pool with a rope.
- George Burns
Women might be able to fake orgasms, but men can fake whole relationships.
- Sharon Stone
My girlfriend always laughs during sex, no matter what she is reading.
- Steve Jobs
My mother never saw the irony in calling me a son-of-a-bitch.
- Jack Nicholson
Clinton lied. A man might forget where he parks or where he lives, but he never forgets oral sex, no matter how bad it is.
- Barbara Bush
Ah yes, divorce, from the latin word meaning to rip out a man's genitals through his wallet.
- Robin Williams
Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place.
- Billy Crystal
According to a new survey, women say that they feel more comfortable undressing in front of men than they do in front of other women. They say that women are too judgemental, where, of course, men are just grateful.
- Robert De Niro
Instead of getting married again, I'm going to find a woman I don't like and give her a house.
- Rod Stewart
See, the problem is that God gives men a brain and a penis, and only enough blood to run one at a time.
- Robin Williams
- Tom Clancy
You know "that look" that women get when they want sex? Me neither.
- Steve Martin
Having sex is like playing bridge. If you don't have a good partner, you better have a good hand.
- Woody Allen
Bisexuality immediately doubles your chance for a date on Saturday night.
- Rodney Dangerfield
Sex at age 90 is like trying to shoot pool with a rope.
- George Burns
Women might be able to fake orgasms, but men can fake whole relationships.
- Sharon Stone
My girlfriend always laughs during sex, no matter what she is reading.
- Steve Jobs
My mother never saw the irony in calling me a son-of-a-bitch.
- Jack Nicholson
Clinton lied. A man might forget where he parks or where he lives, but he never forgets oral sex, no matter how bad it is.
- Barbara Bush
Ah yes, divorce, from the latin word meaning to rip out a man's genitals through his wallet.
- Robin Williams
Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place.
- Billy Crystal
According to a new survey, women say that they feel more comfortable undressing in front of men than they do in front of other women. They say that women are too judgemental, where, of course, men are just grateful.
- Robert De Niro
Instead of getting married again, I'm going to find a woman I don't like and give her a house.
- Rod Stewart
See, the problem is that God gives men a brain and a penis, and only enough blood to run one at a time.
- Robin Williams
Wednesday, March 12, 2008
Tuesday, March 11, 2008
LR: BJ lessons aka messed up a 3some
What a crazy day!
I was very productive Saturday and was able to accomplish a lot of things on my "list of things to do" which put me in a very good, accomplished mood.
For Saturday night, I didn't have any set plans but had tentatively set it up to go out with Sinn.
About 3pm I get a text from a stripper I have been talking to off and on for a year. She found me on myspace a while ago. We communicated via myspace for quite some time and eventually met face to face a couple of times. We always met up in a big group so we hadn’t had much one-on-one time. I eventually asked her to lunch several months ago. There was chemistry and I found her attractive but shortly after lunch, she accidentally sent me a text she meant for her friend that said something along the lines of “This one is a keeper. I am going to take it slow and do it right with this one” I was very clear from the beginning that I am not boyfriend material so I cut back on our communications and haven’t seen or spoken to her in about 4 months.
She text me "Just getting out of the shower. I am naked and horny. I haven't had sex in months"
There is always a debate in my mind on how to react when directly confronted with sex. It’s almost like a poker game of sorts…..do you ‘fold’ and go for it and risk them bluffing and you seeming too eager or do you call them on their ‘bluff’ and play hard to get. I normally go with hard to get.
I text her back "Quit bothering me with your problems =)"
She text me "Are you gay? Most guys would be asking for directions to my house already"
I text back "I am not that easy or like most guys. Definitely not gay"
She immediately calls me. She tells me she wants to see me. I tell her I am busy running errands but I might be able to make time for her later however, it is a Saturday and I have plans for the evening. She again calls me gay and reiterates that most guys would drop everything and come right over if she offered them sex.
I tell her that I have more options than most guys and plan my dates around my life, not the other way around.
She asks when the last time I had sex was. I tell her that the question was way too personal. She stays on the subject and I eventually tell her "last night" (which was true). She mentions that she didn't know I had a girlfriend. I tell her I don't.
She accuses me of being a player. I say "sure I am, but you still like me". She agrees and tells me she wants to come over and see me.
I tell her that I am in the middle of something but will call her in a bit. I finish up my errand I was in the middle of, take a shower and then text her my address. I don't hear back from her but assume she is on her way.
30 minutes later, there is a knock on my door. She is wearing this cute little sun dress and looks HOT!!!
She has this mischievous gleam in her eye as she walks past me, hops up on my kitchen counter and stares at me. I have this gut feeling that I should just walk up and start making out with her but instead, I sort of chicken out and ask her if she wants a drink.
She says she wants a chocolate martini so I make her a very strong one. She downs it in seconds and asks for another. I am still pouring myself a drink and start laughing. It is obvious she is looking for an "excuse" for whatever happens while she is at my house. I KNOW I am in and decide to slow play it.
I finish pouring my drink, make her another and invite her to join me on my love seat. She does. She has one of her legs flung over mine and I have my arm around her when she abruptly gets up and moves several feet away to my couch.
WTF!
I of course don't let it show that it phases me. She suggests a movie and gets up and looks though my collection. She chooses a sappy one and we barely watch it as we talk and get to know each other better.
Sexual framing is the name of the game however, the more I frame, the more her body language gets protective. She eventually ends up curled up with a pillow clung to her chest which is obvious protective body language.
I feel I have 3 options at this point - I can plow through it, I can pull back, or I can call her on it.
Never being one to back down, I call her on it.
I abruptly tell her that I expected so much more from her the way she built up this visit but am now realizing that she is all talk. A “challenge” if you will…..
She admits she is being reserved. We talk about why and she says that I intimidate her for some reason. I can barely stop laughing because I feel that I am anything but intimidating. She says that I am too comfortable in my own skin and it makes her nervous. This is a compliment of sorts, I guess.
I don't back down and again accuse her of being all talk. I know she is a stripper. She has mentioned before that her "hat trick" is a girl-on-girl show which is how she makes the majority of her money. She has made it clear that she is experimental and is bi-sexual - what gives? Why is she being reserved with me?
She asks for another drink and lets me know that this one will make her drunk as she is a lightweight - again providing excuses for her behavior. I make us each another drink and then try to join her on the couch.
She is being very shy for some reason.
Just then, her best friend, another stripper calls. As they are talking, I start interrupting the call about how shy my girl is. I am teasing her through the phone to her best friend.
Her friend is eating it up and demands to talk to me. I get her on the phone and we both start making fun of how shy my stripper is. I again accuse her of being all talk. My stripper is trying to defend herself but her friend and I are both playfully slamming on her.
My stripper eventually gets up, pulls up her dress and proves to me that she is not wearing any panties. Nice! She also tells me she was hoping that I attacked her right when she walked in the door. She then tells me to open her purse. I do and right at the top is a pink plastic bag. She tells me to open it and inside is a condom she just purchased. She then demands to know if I still think she is all talk. I say "yes, for sure!" very sarcastically.
The friend, who is already driving to my house, tells my stripper, through me, that if she really wants to turn me on, she needs to drop my pants and start giving me a blow job. My girl exclaims that she is horrible at giving head. We both start making fun of her and I warn her that I am going to buy her a book about giving head.
We continue to pick on my stripper while the friend on the phone drives to my place. She eventually shows up and I also make her a drink.
By this time, I have a good buzz, my stripper is hammered and the friend has a lot of catching up to do….
I again bring it to a sexual frame and we end up talking about blow jobs. The friend really loves giving head and again encourages my stripper to go down on me. It takes a lot of teasing, more drinks and some encouragement but she eventually gives in and starts giving me a blow job with her friend watching.
My stripper is giving me head while the other one, who refuses to join in, is giving my stripper advice, rubbing my ass, massaging my neck, scratching my back and generally adding to the experience.
During this time, I am getting texts from Sinn and my buddy Vodka. Of course it is rude as hell but I am responding to their texts while she is going down on me.
My girl is really, really bad about giving head. I start to laugh and make fun of her. This is done in a teasing way – not malicious. All three of us are laughing at the situation and having a good time about it. Never in my life have I dreamed I would be making fun of a stripper while her mouth is on my dick, I am texting my buddies and her friend is watching. Incredible!
Her friend keeps giving her advice but it is a lost cause. It just isn’t going to happen for me. She needs some serious help!
This goes on for a while but all of us have commitments for the evening so she eventually stops, they leave and I text Vodka to come pick my drunk ass up.
He shows up and we text Sinn who texts back gibberish. It is only 10:30 so he either got an early start or is preoccupied with some hottie.
Vodka and I head to a club which is supposed to be new and happening but is dead. We each slam our drink and head to another bar which is inconsistent but when it is on, has some of the hottest women I have ever seen gathered in one place. This night it is on.
I declare a personal goal to integrate myself into this place. I am already in with the bouncers and Vodka already knows the owner. It should be easy. However, this club is very clique-ish so I have a challenge ahead of me. There are just so many hotties in this place that I gotta gain social status somehow…..
Vodka and I proceed to drink large amounts of alcohol and hit on a few hotties with poor results. We haven’t seen each other in a while so we are doing more catching up than flirting which is all good.
I get a few texts from Stripper while we are out asking me to join up with them. I ignore the texts as I have already told her I have plans for the evening, no matter how flimsy they were.
Jump forward to closing time….. I am drunk and horny from getting a partial blow job earlier in the day. I start randomly texting all my usual girls but for some reason, they all blow me off for the evening. The stars have aligned to curse me I believe.
Vodka drives my drunk ass home and as we are pulling into my driveway, I get a text from Stripper wanting to know if her and her friend can sleep in my bed with me. I text back “sure” and invite Vodka in to be my wingman.
We go inside and cook up some cheap ass frozen appetizers I have while I pour us another drink. The girls arrive and shots start flowing. Vodka, who isn’t physically attractive at all, is one of the best people I know for sexual framing. He can say the most obnoxious things that would get anyone else slapped yet gets a laugh out of it every time. He is being his typical self and gets the girls all worked up. We start talking about blow jobs and spanking so he whips off his belt and starts spanking the girls. The girls are totally into it and tell him to spank them harder.
Within about 30 minutes of talking to them, Vodka grabs the friend and goes upstairs. My stripper and I start making out – the first time we have every kissed and we decide to go upstairs too. It turns out, Vodka and his girl are on my bed and my girl throws them out. They go back downstairs to my couch.
Within minutes, we hear slapping sounds, moaning and the couch pounding against the wall. They are getting it on.
My girl tells me that I really dropped the ball. She says her friend was so turned on watching her give me a blow job that she wanted to join in at the time. However, she was hesitant because she didn’t know how into me my stripper was so she just watched. They later debriefed and my girl gave her permission to join in. When they text me that they wanted to sleep over, they were planning on a three-some. FUCK! I blew it. She is getting her release from Vodka instead……
Listening to them go at it, my girl and I realize we are moving too slow so she throws a condom on me and we go to town. However, she is too drunk to really work it and I am too drunk to really care so we decide to raincheck for the morning, call it quits and go to sleep.
I wake up in the morning ready to go. I throw on a condom, wake her up and definitely make up for the night before.
I later debrief with Vodka. He said his girl was a total freak! He violated his girl every which way to Sunday. She begged him to give her a grand finale by painting her face.
All in all a good day!
I was very productive Saturday and was able to accomplish a lot of things on my "list of things to do" which put me in a very good, accomplished mood.
For Saturday night, I didn't have any set plans but had tentatively set it up to go out with Sinn.
About 3pm I get a text from a stripper I have been talking to off and on for a year. She found me on myspace a while ago. We communicated via myspace for quite some time and eventually met face to face a couple of times. We always met up in a big group so we hadn’t had much one-on-one time. I eventually asked her to lunch several months ago. There was chemistry and I found her attractive but shortly after lunch, she accidentally sent me a text she meant for her friend that said something along the lines of “This one is a keeper. I am going to take it slow and do it right with this one” I was very clear from the beginning that I am not boyfriend material so I cut back on our communications and haven’t seen or spoken to her in about 4 months.
She text me "Just getting out of the shower. I am naked and horny. I haven't had sex in months"
There is always a debate in my mind on how to react when directly confronted with sex. It’s almost like a poker game of sorts…..do you ‘fold’ and go for it and risk them bluffing and you seeming too eager or do you call them on their ‘bluff’ and play hard to get. I normally go with hard to get.
I text her back "Quit bothering me with your problems =)"
She text me "Are you gay? Most guys would be asking for directions to my house already"
I text back "I am not that easy or like most guys. Definitely not gay"
She immediately calls me. She tells me she wants to see me. I tell her I am busy running errands but I might be able to make time for her later however, it is a Saturday and I have plans for the evening. She again calls me gay and reiterates that most guys would drop everything and come right over if she offered them sex.
I tell her that I have more options than most guys and plan my dates around my life, not the other way around.
She asks when the last time I had sex was. I tell her that the question was way too personal. She stays on the subject and I eventually tell her "last night" (which was true). She mentions that she didn't know I had a girlfriend. I tell her I don't.
She accuses me of being a player. I say "sure I am, but you still like me". She agrees and tells me she wants to come over and see me.
I tell her that I am in the middle of something but will call her in a bit. I finish up my errand I was in the middle of, take a shower and then text her my address. I don't hear back from her but assume she is on her way.
30 minutes later, there is a knock on my door. She is wearing this cute little sun dress and looks HOT!!!
She has this mischievous gleam in her eye as she walks past me, hops up on my kitchen counter and stares at me. I have this gut feeling that I should just walk up and start making out with her but instead, I sort of chicken out and ask her if she wants a drink.
She says she wants a chocolate martini so I make her a very strong one. She downs it in seconds and asks for another. I am still pouring myself a drink and start laughing. It is obvious she is looking for an "excuse" for whatever happens while she is at my house. I KNOW I am in and decide to slow play it.
I finish pouring my drink, make her another and invite her to join me on my love seat. She does. She has one of her legs flung over mine and I have my arm around her when she abruptly gets up and moves several feet away to my couch.
WTF!
I of course don't let it show that it phases me. She suggests a movie and gets up and looks though my collection. She chooses a sappy one and we barely watch it as we talk and get to know each other better.
Sexual framing is the name of the game however, the more I frame, the more her body language gets protective. She eventually ends up curled up with a pillow clung to her chest which is obvious protective body language.
I feel I have 3 options at this point - I can plow through it, I can pull back, or I can call her on it.
Never being one to back down, I call her on it.
I abruptly tell her that I expected so much more from her the way she built up this visit but am now realizing that she is all talk. A “challenge” if you will…..
She admits she is being reserved. We talk about why and she says that I intimidate her for some reason. I can barely stop laughing because I feel that I am anything but intimidating. She says that I am too comfortable in my own skin and it makes her nervous. This is a compliment of sorts, I guess.
I don't back down and again accuse her of being all talk. I know she is a stripper. She has mentioned before that her "hat trick" is a girl-on-girl show which is how she makes the majority of her money. She has made it clear that she is experimental and is bi-sexual - what gives? Why is she being reserved with me?
She asks for another drink and lets me know that this one will make her drunk as she is a lightweight - again providing excuses for her behavior. I make us each another drink and then try to join her on the couch.
She is being very shy for some reason.
Just then, her best friend, another stripper calls. As they are talking, I start interrupting the call about how shy my girl is. I am teasing her through the phone to her best friend.
Her friend is eating it up and demands to talk to me. I get her on the phone and we both start making fun of how shy my stripper is. I again accuse her of being all talk. My stripper is trying to defend herself but her friend and I are both playfully slamming on her.
My stripper eventually gets up, pulls up her dress and proves to me that she is not wearing any panties. Nice! She also tells me she was hoping that I attacked her right when she walked in the door. She then tells me to open her purse. I do and right at the top is a pink plastic bag. She tells me to open it and inside is a condom she just purchased. She then demands to know if I still think she is all talk. I say "yes, for sure!" very sarcastically.
The friend, who is already driving to my house, tells my stripper, through me, that if she really wants to turn me on, she needs to drop my pants and start giving me a blow job. My girl exclaims that she is horrible at giving head. We both start making fun of her and I warn her that I am going to buy her a book about giving head.
We continue to pick on my stripper while the friend on the phone drives to my place. She eventually shows up and I also make her a drink.
By this time, I have a good buzz, my stripper is hammered and the friend has a lot of catching up to do….
I again bring it to a sexual frame and we end up talking about blow jobs. The friend really loves giving head and again encourages my stripper to go down on me. It takes a lot of teasing, more drinks and some encouragement but she eventually gives in and starts giving me a blow job with her friend watching.
My stripper is giving me head while the other one, who refuses to join in, is giving my stripper advice, rubbing my ass, massaging my neck, scratching my back and generally adding to the experience.
During this time, I am getting texts from Sinn and my buddy Vodka. Of course it is rude as hell but I am responding to their texts while she is going down on me.
My girl is really, really bad about giving head. I start to laugh and make fun of her. This is done in a teasing way – not malicious. All three of us are laughing at the situation and having a good time about it. Never in my life have I dreamed I would be making fun of a stripper while her mouth is on my dick, I am texting my buddies and her friend is watching. Incredible!
Her friend keeps giving her advice but it is a lost cause. It just isn’t going to happen for me. She needs some serious help!
This goes on for a while but all of us have commitments for the evening so she eventually stops, they leave and I text Vodka to come pick my drunk ass up.
He shows up and we text Sinn who texts back gibberish. It is only 10:30 so he either got an early start or is preoccupied with some hottie.
Vodka and I head to a club which is supposed to be new and happening but is dead. We each slam our drink and head to another bar which is inconsistent but when it is on, has some of the hottest women I have ever seen gathered in one place. This night it is on.
I declare a personal goal to integrate myself into this place. I am already in with the bouncers and Vodka already knows the owner. It should be easy. However, this club is very clique-ish so I have a challenge ahead of me. There are just so many hotties in this place that I gotta gain social status somehow…..
Vodka and I proceed to drink large amounts of alcohol and hit on a few hotties with poor results. We haven’t seen each other in a while so we are doing more catching up than flirting which is all good.
I get a few texts from Stripper while we are out asking me to join up with them. I ignore the texts as I have already told her I have plans for the evening, no matter how flimsy they were.
Jump forward to closing time….. I am drunk and horny from getting a partial blow job earlier in the day. I start randomly texting all my usual girls but for some reason, they all blow me off for the evening. The stars have aligned to curse me I believe.
Vodka drives my drunk ass home and as we are pulling into my driveway, I get a text from Stripper wanting to know if her and her friend can sleep in my bed with me. I text back “sure” and invite Vodka in to be my wingman.
We go inside and cook up some cheap ass frozen appetizers I have while I pour us another drink. The girls arrive and shots start flowing. Vodka, who isn’t physically attractive at all, is one of the best people I know for sexual framing. He can say the most obnoxious things that would get anyone else slapped yet gets a laugh out of it every time. He is being his typical self and gets the girls all worked up. We start talking about blow jobs and spanking so he whips off his belt and starts spanking the girls. The girls are totally into it and tell him to spank them harder.
Within about 30 minutes of talking to them, Vodka grabs the friend and goes upstairs. My stripper and I start making out – the first time we have every kissed and we decide to go upstairs too. It turns out, Vodka and his girl are on my bed and my girl throws them out. They go back downstairs to my couch.
Within minutes, we hear slapping sounds, moaning and the couch pounding against the wall. They are getting it on.
My girl tells me that I really dropped the ball. She says her friend was so turned on watching her give me a blow job that she wanted to join in at the time. However, she was hesitant because she didn’t know how into me my stripper was so she just watched. They later debriefed and my girl gave her permission to join in. When they text me that they wanted to sleep over, they were planning on a three-some. FUCK! I blew it. She is getting her release from Vodka instead……
Listening to them go at it, my girl and I realize we are moving too slow so she throws a condom on me and we go to town. However, she is too drunk to really work it and I am too drunk to really care so we decide to raincheck for the morning, call it quits and go to sleep.
I wake up in the morning ready to go. I throw on a condom, wake her up and definitely make up for the night before.
I later debrief with Vodka. He said his girl was a total freak! He violated his girl every which way to Sunday. She begged him to give her a grand finale by painting her face.
All in all a good day!
Monday, March 10, 2008
"Oui Oui"
http://www.time.com/time/world/article/0,8599,1720316,00.html?xid=newsletter-weekly
Its time to start hanging out in France more....
Its time to start hanging out in France more....
Thursday, March 6, 2008
Tuesday, March 4, 2008
Saturday, February 16, 2008
The AMOG
First off, what most guys in the community call AMOGing (alpha male of the group) to me is just an insecure guy intimidating a more insecure guy. A true leader wouldn't have to actively try to "take" a girl from another guy. He would be surrounded by females and would be choosing which one he wants vs. chasing one that is with another guy.
That being said, AMOGing some other chump in a bar seems to have some sort of stupid attraction to many PUAs. Maybe it is a cheap way to boost their fragile ego? I don't know.....
Tonight, I was out with one of my girls and Sinn. Sinn was off doing his thing and I was hanging with my girl. Her and I were cutting up and having a good time.
As we are minding our own business, some community guy I didn't recognize decided to try and AMOG me. It was very obvious he was a community guy. I am not sure if he knew who I was or not but he was very persistant.
I normally don't mind when guys come up and test the waters so to speak when I am with a girl. I typically date very attractive women and am used to guys coming up and flirting with my women. I don't really mind and often find it flattering. And when most guys realize that I am with the girl, they politely back away. No harm, no foul.
This guy wasn't polite or respectful however. And of course, he got blown out.
Whoever you are, lame PUA AMOGing guy, I have some tips and tricks for you.
DON'T try to open me with some lame line like "How 'bout them Lakers?". Especially when I am not watching TV and we are in Dallas.
DON'T keep plowing through when I say I don't care about the Lakers and then both my girl and I back turn you.
DO realize that you stink like loser chump, you have nothing on me and there is no way you could ever score a girl as hot as mine.
DO walk away once you have been back turned.
DON'T try to reopen us by grabbing my shoulder and trying to turn me to face you. Especially when you are about 6" shorter than me and weigh about 50lbs less.
DO walk away after I turn and glare at you for rudely touching me and then back turn you again.
DON'T then try to reopen me again with the same lame line about the Lakers. It didn't work the first time, it won't the second time
DON'T then open my girl with some compliment about her earings after it is obvious we don't want to talk to you.
DON'T stare at my girls breasts the whole time you are talking to her so much so that she leans into me and tells me that you are creeping her out.
DO walk away quickly when I interrupt your stupid story and tell you very aggressively, "Nice meeting you man, have a good one" and then both myself and my girl back turn you.
DON'T, DON'T, DON'T grab my shoulder again and try to physically turn me towards you. I know the community teaches that you should kino people to establish rapport. Physically trying to turn me is only going to piss me off.
DO run when I grab your hand and throw it off my shoulder, tell you to "Get your fucking hand off me" and back turn you yet again.
DON'T put your arm across my back yet again in some fake buddy-I-have-my-arm-around-you gesture and tell me to calm down.
DO get the hint and leave when I tell you to "Quit fucking touching me or I will put you down"
DO realize that I am not bluffing.
DON'T then open the set of 4 guys standing nearby with the same stupid line about the Lakers and then try to manipulate that group into starting conversation with my girl again.
DO realize you have lost the test of wits when I start slamming on you and you can't think fast enough on your feet to have a good come back.
DO understand that when I grab my girl's hand and we walk away from you that we are tired of you bothering us and are moving to a douche free zone.
DON'T then mumble "pussy" as I am walking away thinking that 1) I am not going to hear it and 2) if I do hear it, I am not going to do anything about it
DO run away like a little bitch when I abruptly turn and confront you. Oh yeah, that is right, you did do this. Good job! You finally got one right.
Lame AMOG PUA guy, I won't forget this. I can't wait to run into you again when I am not with a date.
That being said, AMOGing some other chump in a bar seems to have some sort of stupid attraction to many PUAs. Maybe it is a cheap way to boost their fragile ego? I don't know.....
Tonight, I was out with one of my girls and Sinn. Sinn was off doing his thing and I was hanging with my girl. Her and I were cutting up and having a good time.
As we are minding our own business, some community guy I didn't recognize decided to try and AMOG me. It was very obvious he was a community guy. I am not sure if he knew who I was or not but he was very persistant.
I normally don't mind when guys come up and test the waters so to speak when I am with a girl. I typically date very attractive women and am used to guys coming up and flirting with my women. I don't really mind and often find it flattering. And when most guys realize that I am with the girl, they politely back away. No harm, no foul.
This guy wasn't polite or respectful however. And of course, he got blown out.
Whoever you are, lame PUA AMOGing guy, I have some tips and tricks for you.
DON'T try to open me with some lame line like "How 'bout them Lakers?". Especially when I am not watching TV and we are in Dallas.
DON'T keep plowing through when I say I don't care about the Lakers and then both my girl and I back turn you.
DO realize that you stink like loser chump, you have nothing on me and there is no way you could ever score a girl as hot as mine.
DO walk away once you have been back turned.
DON'T try to reopen us by grabbing my shoulder and trying to turn me to face you. Especially when you are about 6" shorter than me and weigh about 50lbs less.
DO walk away after I turn and glare at you for rudely touching me and then back turn you again.
DON'T then try to reopen me again with the same lame line about the Lakers. It didn't work the first time, it won't the second time
DON'T then open my girl with some compliment about her earings after it is obvious we don't want to talk to you.
DON'T stare at my girls breasts the whole time you are talking to her so much so that she leans into me and tells me that you are creeping her out.
DO walk away quickly when I interrupt your stupid story and tell you very aggressively, "Nice meeting you man, have a good one" and then both myself and my girl back turn you.
DON'T, DON'T, DON'T grab my shoulder again and try to physically turn me towards you. I know the community teaches that you should kino people to establish rapport. Physically trying to turn me is only going to piss me off.
DO run when I grab your hand and throw it off my shoulder, tell you to "Get your fucking hand off me" and back turn you yet again.
DON'T put your arm across my back yet again in some fake buddy-I-have-my-arm-around-you gesture and tell me to calm down.
DO get the hint and leave when I tell you to "Quit fucking touching me or I will put you down"
DO realize that I am not bluffing.
DON'T then open the set of 4 guys standing nearby with the same stupid line about the Lakers and then try to manipulate that group into starting conversation with my girl again.
DO realize you have lost the test of wits when I start slamming on you and you can't think fast enough on your feet to have a good come back.
DO understand that when I grab my girl's hand and we walk away from you that we are tired of you bothering us and are moving to a douche free zone.
DON'T then mumble "pussy" as I am walking away thinking that 1) I am not going to hear it and 2) if I do hear it, I am not going to do anything about it
DO run away like a little bitch when I abruptly turn and confront you. Oh yeah, that is right, you did do this. Good job! You finally got one right.
Lame AMOG PUA guy, I won't forget this. I can't wait to run into you again when I am not with a date.
Thursday, February 14, 2008
Saturday, February 9, 2008
Friday, February 8, 2008
The ball
I recently attended a charity ball held annually which is billed as “the world's largest black tie affair”. "Party for a purpose" would be a good way to describe it as it is definitely alcohol focused but all proceeds go to children's charities.
Several groups throw pre and post parties. Everyone is encouraged to get rooms so that they don't have to drive home or fight the taxi line on the way out of the ball.
It is guaranteed a great time. This year was no exception.
The event starts out in the afternoon with me checking into my room. I have a cooler full of beer and several of bottles of alcohol. Vodka (one of my best buddies), my usual wingman and another guy are supposed to join me. We have an open invitation out to 13 girls to join us at the ball and several say they plan on crashing in our place at the end of the evening.
I get to the room as my usual wing shows up. We go to the lobby bar of the hotel and grab dinner and a beer while we catch up. We then head to the room while Vodka and the other guy show up. We all make drinks and change into our tuxedos.
We head to a pre-party we were invited to which was dead. However, instead of bouncing around, we decide to wait to see if any of our girls shows up. Two do - a hot blonde and her even hotter blonde friend. Vodka and I immediately go for the hotter friend while my usual wing goes for the initial blonde whom he knows and invited.
We ditch the pre-party and roll down to the ball. We are a little bit early and the ball isn’t really happening yet. Vodka and I exchange glances. We have been buddies for many years and both know when we need to spice up a party. We hit the bar and each slam 3 tequila shots. Hot Blonde decides to join us in the shots. She is a party girl and we are both digging her.
We never let women get in the way of our friendship and normally, we have different taste in women so it isn’t an issue. However, we are both flirting with her so I pull him aside and we make a “whatever happens, we are still friends” pack. Game on!
After we slam the shots, we decide to head into the bar. However, while we are walking from the bar to the ball, I run into my physician. My doctor is hot! Very hot! And although she is married with kids, has checked me several times for venereal diseases and has put her finger up my ass to test my prostrate, I get a feeling she is very attracted to me. Maybe it was the fact that she gave me her personal cell phone and invited me to lunch after my last appointment? Or maybe it was when I saw her at the ball, she pulled me away from her group of friends (and husband) and planted a kiss first on my neck and then later on my lips after we talk for a bit? ‘D’, all of the above…… I separate myself from her after a bit and head into the ball to catch up with Vodka and Blondie.
I get into the ball and run into my usual wing, along with Vodka, Blondie and even hotter Blondie. My wing is talking to a very young guy who is with one of the hottest brunettes I have ever seen in person. Stunning! The young guy is very drunk – he has been drinking all day long and can barely put a sentence together. His GORGEOUS date has a look of disgust on her face and I see an opportunity. I jump in, pull her away from her date and start talking to her.
Brunette is VERY receptive to any attention from anyone other than her date. We flirt, talk, hit it off….. when I decide it is time for another drink. She comes with me as I head to the bar and grab us each a glass of wine. As we are getting our drink on, her very drunk, young date comes up and pulls her away from me. I try to steal her back but as it turns out, she has been dating this douche for a while and just upset with him, not ready to leave him.
I head back to Vodka and Hot Blonde. At this point, we are already bored with the ball as the energy just has not picked up. Hot Blonde shows her true party side and wants us to invite Brunette to leave the ball and head back to the room. She tells us that she is Bi and wants to go to my room and party. A four-some if you will. We approach Brunette and let Hot Blonde do all of the talking. Brunette seems at first responsive and then clams up and decides to stay with her boyfriend. Oh well.
We decide to ditch her and the three of us – me, Vodka and Hot Blonde – head up to my room.
Over the next 3 hours the three of us drink WAY too much. We kill all but ¼ of a brand new bottle of Grey Goose, an unopened bottle of Tuaca, and two brand new bottles of Champagne. Yup, 3 people drank 3 shots of tequila and then managed to kill 4 bottles of alcohol. I am very surprised we are still alive.
Sometime during the melee, my usual wing and the other blonde come up to my room to check on us. They walk into a situation where Blondie is in the process of taking my clothes off with vodka hovering right next to us. Blondie has her lipstick smeared all over her face. The details are a bit fuzzy but lucky for me, my usual wing was able to snap some quick pictures to later refresh my memory before we came to our senses and stopped.
Blonde very wisely pulls her friend out of the room and they leave the ball and go home.
The night is still young and although I probably should have given my body and my liver a rest for the evening, I stagger back down to the ball with my usual wing. It is almost over but there is still music going on.
We run into my wing’s boss. I have known her for a while and although she is older than me, she is a hottie. Guys are always hitting on her and she has dated a couple of famous rock musicians. She has never been married nor had kids and is a party girl.
I go up to her and pull her onto the dance floor. She makes a comment about how aggressive I am. I play off this and tell her she has no idea about how aggressive I can be. She makes a flirty, cooing noise and tells me she likes aggressive guys.
I look over and my wing has pulled this amazing blonde woman we had spotted earlier out onto the dance floor. He looks over at me and just to mess with him, I pull his boss’s hair so that her head rocks back and then I bite her neck. The look on his face was priceless! And boss was into it. We start making out on the dance floor.
Things get hot and heavy. There is a lot of dancing, making out, hair pulling, pinning against walls, etc. Boss came with a big group of girls in a limo and they finally succeed in pulling her away from me and getting her to leave the ball. I didn’t really want it to go much farther with her than a drunken make out as I have a professional relationship with her so I didn’t put up a fight.
I head to the restroom and find that I have lipstick and makeup smeared all over my face. I do my best to wash it off and then head to an after ball party in one of the hotel suites.
I get into the party and immediately this girl, seeing that I am a drunken mess, pulls me into the bathroom and offers to clean me up. I get a good look in the mirror this time…my hair is a mess, I still have lipstick smeared all over my face, and my tux is missing its bow tie.
She washes my face for me and does her best to clean me up. There is beer on ice in the tub so I grab us each one and we sit on the tub edge and talk until there is knocking on the bathroom door.
As we are walking out, I run into my usual wing. Surprise surprise, we end up at the same after hour’s party….. He is still a little shaken up from watching me violate his boss in 10 different ways but tells me he has seen the perfect girl for me.
He walks me over to a set of couches with 8 women and 6 guys sitting on them. It is obvious that all of the guys are working the girls.
My wing points out “my girl” and he is right, physically she is totally my type. And she has a guy sitting right next to her spitting all of his mad game.
I listen for a bit to get a read on the situation. The guy is doing OK and I can tell “my girl” is mildly interested. My wing and I debate about what I should do. So, I can either move on and let the guy have his girl, or I can provide him some friendly competition.
“Fuck it, I am going in”
I rudely plop down on the couch on the other side of her and announce “Sorry I am late, but traffic was a bitch” with a shit eating grin.
Instead of laughter or a positive response, I get a bunch of blank stares from everyone on the couch. If the party wasn’t so loud, I am sure you could hear crickets chirping.
To save the situation, I made a self disparaging comment. “Come on, do you really think a drunk guy with messed up hair and a missing bow tie is going to have something insightful to say?” And then I laughed.
This gets a laugh out of the group and gets the attention of “my girl”. She turns from the guy hitting on her and starts talking to me. I keep her laughing the rest of the night. She is a lot of fun! Sometime during the conversation, the other guy quietly leaves. In fact, all of the other guys left leaving me on the couch entertaining the 8 girls.
Throughout (what I remember) of our conversation, I was playing a role of naive guy, right off the farm, who owned a couple of chickens and a goat and drove a tractor around town. Anytime they asked me what I did, what I liked to do for fun, etc. I made a reference back to my "farm".
I had heard several of the other guys trying to impress the girls with what they did for work, how many houses they had, what kind of car they drove, etc. Very boring stuff! I decided before I even approached the couches that I was going to be the fun guy.
All of the girls were picking on me in a friendly way about being drunk, being a goofball, being a farmer, etc. I was teasing them all right back.
At one point I announced I needed a drink (no, I really didn’t) and my girl tells me she will get me one. She goes to the bar that was set up in the room and comes back with a shot for me.
I try to do the shot but it is the nastiest whiskey that has ever touched my lips. And I LOVE whiskey! I almost barf all over the table. She makes fun of me being a wimp so I give her the shot. She takes a sip and it almost makes her throw up.
The other girls start giving me a hard time about not being able to drink so I man up and down the shot. Yes, I gave in to peer pressure….. They bet me I can’t do another one. I say sure but if I do it, I get a kiss from “my girl”. She agrees, gets me another shot and I slam it. And I don’t remember anything afterwards. I wake up in my hotel room in the morning, still in my tux lying on the bed.
The next morning I wake up and clean up the room. I find a number in my pocket with no name and unfortunately, I can’t remember the name of the girl from the party. That sucks!
I head home and chill on my couch. Strangely, I am not hung over. I decide that my liver has just given up and isn’t going to try and teach me any more lessons as they never work.
Later, I get a call from a friend who needs help moving a bed. I agree to help and when I stand up, feel woozy. I decide to pull out my breathalyzer I purchased off of Ebay and see if I still have alcohol in my system. Its 3pm in the afternoon and I blow a .13. Whoa!
Fortunately, my friend lives around the corner so there is no more drunken driving required. I get to my buddy’s and in the middle of moving a mattress from my friend’s house to his garage, I turn my head and empty the contents of my stomach all over their yard. Luckily we are outside so no clean up required. I guess my liver wants to punish me afterall……
I go home and call my girl. And as luck would have it, I get her voice mail and she gives her name in the message. Excellent! I leave a message and she calls me back a few minutes later.
She is laughing at my drunken state from the night before and I am picking on her about a bunch of stuff we talked about. We end up having a long, fun conversation.
We have been dating ever since.
Several groups throw pre and post parties. Everyone is encouraged to get rooms so that they don't have to drive home or fight the taxi line on the way out of the ball.
It is guaranteed a great time. This year was no exception.
The event starts out in the afternoon with me checking into my room. I have a cooler full of beer and several of bottles of alcohol. Vodka (one of my best buddies), my usual wingman and another guy are supposed to join me. We have an open invitation out to 13 girls to join us at the ball and several say they plan on crashing in our place at the end of the evening.
I get to the room as my usual wing shows up. We go to the lobby bar of the hotel and grab dinner and a beer while we catch up. We then head to the room while Vodka and the other guy show up. We all make drinks and change into our tuxedos.
We head to a pre-party we were invited to which was dead. However, instead of bouncing around, we decide to wait to see if any of our girls shows up. Two do - a hot blonde and her even hotter blonde friend. Vodka and I immediately go for the hotter friend while my usual wing goes for the initial blonde whom he knows and invited.
We ditch the pre-party and roll down to the ball. We are a little bit early and the ball isn’t really happening yet. Vodka and I exchange glances. We have been buddies for many years and both know when we need to spice up a party. We hit the bar and each slam 3 tequila shots. Hot Blonde decides to join us in the shots. She is a party girl and we are both digging her.
We never let women get in the way of our friendship and normally, we have different taste in women so it isn’t an issue. However, we are both flirting with her so I pull him aside and we make a “whatever happens, we are still friends” pack. Game on!
After we slam the shots, we decide to head into the bar. However, while we are walking from the bar to the ball, I run into my physician. My doctor is hot! Very hot! And although she is married with kids, has checked me several times for venereal diseases and has put her finger up my ass to test my prostrate, I get a feeling she is very attracted to me. Maybe it was the fact that she gave me her personal cell phone and invited me to lunch after my last appointment? Or maybe it was when I saw her at the ball, she pulled me away from her group of friends (and husband) and planted a kiss first on my neck and then later on my lips after we talk for a bit? ‘D’, all of the above…… I separate myself from her after a bit and head into the ball to catch up with Vodka and Blondie.
I get into the ball and run into my usual wing, along with Vodka, Blondie and even hotter Blondie. My wing is talking to a very young guy who is with one of the hottest brunettes I have ever seen in person. Stunning! The young guy is very drunk – he has been drinking all day long and can barely put a sentence together. His GORGEOUS date has a look of disgust on her face and I see an opportunity. I jump in, pull her away from her date and start talking to her.
Brunette is VERY receptive to any attention from anyone other than her date. We flirt, talk, hit it off….. when I decide it is time for another drink. She comes with me as I head to the bar and grab us each a glass of wine. As we are getting our drink on, her very drunk, young date comes up and pulls her away from me. I try to steal her back but as it turns out, she has been dating this douche for a while and just upset with him, not ready to leave him.
I head back to Vodka and Hot Blonde. At this point, we are already bored with the ball as the energy just has not picked up. Hot Blonde shows her true party side and wants us to invite Brunette to leave the ball and head back to the room. She tells us that she is Bi and wants to go to my room and party. A four-some if you will. We approach Brunette and let Hot Blonde do all of the talking. Brunette seems at first responsive and then clams up and decides to stay with her boyfriend. Oh well.
We decide to ditch her and the three of us – me, Vodka and Hot Blonde – head up to my room.
Over the next 3 hours the three of us drink WAY too much. We kill all but ¼ of a brand new bottle of Grey Goose, an unopened bottle of Tuaca, and two brand new bottles of Champagne. Yup, 3 people drank 3 shots of tequila and then managed to kill 4 bottles of alcohol. I am very surprised we are still alive.
Sometime during the melee, my usual wing and the other blonde come up to my room to check on us. They walk into a situation where Blondie is in the process of taking my clothes off with vodka hovering right next to us. Blondie has her lipstick smeared all over her face. The details are a bit fuzzy but lucky for me, my usual wing was able to snap some quick pictures to later refresh my memory before we came to our senses and stopped.
Blonde very wisely pulls her friend out of the room and they leave the ball and go home.
The night is still young and although I probably should have given my body and my liver a rest for the evening, I stagger back down to the ball with my usual wing. It is almost over but there is still music going on.
We run into my wing’s boss. I have known her for a while and although she is older than me, she is a hottie. Guys are always hitting on her and she has dated a couple of famous rock musicians. She has never been married nor had kids and is a party girl.
I go up to her and pull her onto the dance floor. She makes a comment about how aggressive I am. I play off this and tell her she has no idea about how aggressive I can be. She makes a flirty, cooing noise and tells me she likes aggressive guys.
I look over and my wing has pulled this amazing blonde woman we had spotted earlier out onto the dance floor. He looks over at me and just to mess with him, I pull his boss’s hair so that her head rocks back and then I bite her neck. The look on his face was priceless! And boss was into it. We start making out on the dance floor.
Things get hot and heavy. There is a lot of dancing, making out, hair pulling, pinning against walls, etc. Boss came with a big group of girls in a limo and they finally succeed in pulling her away from me and getting her to leave the ball. I didn’t really want it to go much farther with her than a drunken make out as I have a professional relationship with her so I didn’t put up a fight.
I head to the restroom and find that I have lipstick and makeup smeared all over my face. I do my best to wash it off and then head to an after ball party in one of the hotel suites.
I get into the party and immediately this girl, seeing that I am a drunken mess, pulls me into the bathroom and offers to clean me up. I get a good look in the mirror this time…my hair is a mess, I still have lipstick smeared all over my face, and my tux is missing its bow tie.
She washes my face for me and does her best to clean me up. There is beer on ice in the tub so I grab us each one and we sit on the tub edge and talk until there is knocking on the bathroom door.
As we are walking out, I run into my usual wing. Surprise surprise, we end up at the same after hour’s party….. He is still a little shaken up from watching me violate his boss in 10 different ways but tells me he has seen the perfect girl for me.
He walks me over to a set of couches with 8 women and 6 guys sitting on them. It is obvious that all of the guys are working the girls.
My wing points out “my girl” and he is right, physically she is totally my type. And she has a guy sitting right next to her spitting all of his mad game.
I listen for a bit to get a read on the situation. The guy is doing OK and I can tell “my girl” is mildly interested. My wing and I debate about what I should do. So, I can either move on and let the guy have his girl, or I can provide him some friendly competition.
“Fuck it, I am going in”
I rudely plop down on the couch on the other side of her and announce “Sorry I am late, but traffic was a bitch” with a shit eating grin.
Instead of laughter or a positive response, I get a bunch of blank stares from everyone on the couch. If the party wasn’t so loud, I am sure you could hear crickets chirping.
To save the situation, I made a self disparaging comment. “Come on, do you really think a drunk guy with messed up hair and a missing bow tie is going to have something insightful to say?” And then I laughed.
This gets a laugh out of the group and gets the attention of “my girl”. She turns from the guy hitting on her and starts talking to me. I keep her laughing the rest of the night. She is a lot of fun! Sometime during the conversation, the other guy quietly leaves. In fact, all of the other guys left leaving me on the couch entertaining the 8 girls.
Throughout (what I remember) of our conversation, I was playing a role of naive guy, right off the farm, who owned a couple of chickens and a goat and drove a tractor around town. Anytime they asked me what I did, what I liked to do for fun, etc. I made a reference back to my "farm".
I had heard several of the other guys trying to impress the girls with what they did for work, how many houses they had, what kind of car they drove, etc. Very boring stuff! I decided before I even approached the couches that I was going to be the fun guy.
All of the girls were picking on me in a friendly way about being drunk, being a goofball, being a farmer, etc. I was teasing them all right back.
At one point I announced I needed a drink (no, I really didn’t) and my girl tells me she will get me one. She goes to the bar that was set up in the room and comes back with a shot for me.
I try to do the shot but it is the nastiest whiskey that has ever touched my lips. And I LOVE whiskey! I almost barf all over the table. She makes fun of me being a wimp so I give her the shot. She takes a sip and it almost makes her throw up.
The other girls start giving me a hard time about not being able to drink so I man up and down the shot. Yes, I gave in to peer pressure….. They bet me I can’t do another one. I say sure but if I do it, I get a kiss from “my girl”. She agrees, gets me another shot and I slam it. And I don’t remember anything afterwards. I wake up in my hotel room in the morning, still in my tux lying on the bed.
The next morning I wake up and clean up the room. I find a number in my pocket with no name and unfortunately, I can’t remember the name of the girl from the party. That sucks!
I head home and chill on my couch. Strangely, I am not hung over. I decide that my liver has just given up and isn’t going to try and teach me any more lessons as they never work.
Later, I get a call from a friend who needs help moving a bed. I agree to help and when I stand up, feel woozy. I decide to pull out my breathalyzer I purchased off of Ebay and see if I still have alcohol in my system. Its 3pm in the afternoon and I blow a .13. Whoa!
Fortunately, my friend lives around the corner so there is no more drunken driving required. I get to my buddy’s and in the middle of moving a mattress from my friend’s house to his garage, I turn my head and empty the contents of my stomach all over their yard. Luckily we are outside so no clean up required. I guess my liver wants to punish me afterall……
I go home and call my girl. And as luck would have it, I get her voice mail and she gives her name in the message. Excellent! I leave a message and she calls me back a few minutes later.
She is laughing at my drunken state from the night before and I am picking on her about a bunch of stuff we talked about. We end up having a long, fun conversation.
We have been dating ever since.
Thursday, February 7, 2008
The lever
I originally joined the community a year and a half ago after "blowing it" with a girl I was very attracted to and who had told all of her friends she had a crush on me. She invited me out to a birthday party at a strip club. We hung out all night at the club and then went to a house party afterwards. I talked with her all night and gave her a nice big hug goodbye with a promise to call her the next day. I thought we had a great time. However, she never returned any of my calls after that day.
I wasn't hung up on her so it didn't get me down but I was definitely disappointed.
I reflected back on my dating life at that point and realized that although I had dated a lot of great girls, they were all girls who chased me. I rarely got one I was initially interested in. Instead, all of the girls I had pursued had become great "friends" of mine.
So, I went to the bookstore and bought several books about relationships. As I was leaving the store, I saw a book called "The Game" and picked it up. After reading "The Game", I searched on the internet for all of the names of people that Style had written about and subsequently, found the Dallas Lair. I immediately joined and became very active in the community and at improving my dating life.
A few weeks ago, I posted about my dilema with where I am at in regards to the pick up community after a year and a half of self improvement. Below is an excerpt:
Or, since I have met most, if not all of the goals I had when I joined the community two years ago and somewhat established myself and become well known, do I become a semi-professional PUA (I have had a couple of offers to teach)? Or, as I have talked about many times with my usual wing, who has a PHD is psychology and ran a relationship counseling business for many, many years, do we start our own little side business to help guys focusing on the social arts (more than the pick up arts)?
Anyway, I feel I am at a cross road. Do I continue to plod along in the community, dating lots of women but never starting a family? Do I reduce my time or drop out of the community and focus on a relationship (or two) and eventually get married? Or do I drink the potion and go "all in", build a better brand for myself and start teaching what I have learned in the community to others?
After posting this, I had a couple more guys ask me to teach them. They offered to be my guinnea pigs. But, I realized that before I could teach anything, I have to be able to describe what I do and much of what I do has been internalized.
So, over the last couple of weeks, I have done a lot of self analysis and compared what I do to many others in the community whom I know. It was a revelation when I started actually figuring out how to describe it enough to explain it to someone else. Once I did that, I realized where the holes were in my own approach and how what I do is more systemized than I initially had thought.
Anyway, the gist of it is that what the majority of PU companies teach is very tactical. There are some great instructors who can take guys who are afraid to approach women and are used to being rejected and have them quickly getting phone numbers, dates or same night lays. It is very powerful!
- Capt Jack http://captainjackpua.blogspot.com/
- Sinn http://sinnsofattraction.blogspot.com/
- El Topo http://the-red-mole.blogspot.com/
This is a very important skill to have but as I mentioned, it is very tactical. The issue is that is requires YOU and YOUR time for you to have any success.
What I have in place, and actually have had for many, many years, is actually a system and lifestyle that does much of the work for me. It is more of a strategical approach. And what I was missing a year and a half ago was simply the tactical piece.
Now that I have both of these pieces together - tactical and strategic - I have had more dating success than I ever dreamed. And more than almost anyone I know.
And the best part about the system is that it can be dialed up or down as I need. I picture it as a "lever". When I want more dating or relationships with women, I push the lever up and it starts happening. Sure, I still have to go out and meet people but a lot of women start coming after me making my job much easier.
And when work has me tied down, I want to focus more of my time on getting to know just one or a couple of girls or I want to spend my time doing other things, I pull the lever down and it all slows down.
More to come......
I wasn't hung up on her so it didn't get me down but I was definitely disappointed.
I reflected back on my dating life at that point and realized that although I had dated a lot of great girls, they were all girls who chased me. I rarely got one I was initially interested in. Instead, all of the girls I had pursued had become great "friends" of mine.
So, I went to the bookstore and bought several books about relationships. As I was leaving the store, I saw a book called "The Game" and picked it up. After reading "The Game", I searched on the internet for all of the names of people that Style had written about and subsequently, found the Dallas Lair. I immediately joined and became very active in the community and at improving my dating life.
A few weeks ago, I posted about my dilema with where I am at in regards to the pick up community after a year and a half of self improvement. Below is an excerpt:
Or, since I have met most, if not all of the goals I had when I joined the community two years ago and somewhat established myself and become well known, do I become a semi-professional PUA (I have had a couple of offers to teach)? Or, as I have talked about many times with my usual wing, who has a PHD is psychology and ran a relationship counseling business for many, many years, do we start our own little side business to help guys focusing on the social arts (more than the pick up arts)?
Anyway, I feel I am at a cross road. Do I continue to plod along in the community, dating lots of women but never starting a family? Do I reduce my time or drop out of the community and focus on a relationship (or two) and eventually get married? Or do I drink the potion and go "all in", build a better brand for myself and start teaching what I have learned in the community to others?
After posting this, I had a couple more guys ask me to teach them. They offered to be my guinnea pigs. But, I realized that before I could teach anything, I have to be able to describe what I do and much of what I do has been internalized.
So, over the last couple of weeks, I have done a lot of self analysis and compared what I do to many others in the community whom I know. It was a revelation when I started actually figuring out how to describe it enough to explain it to someone else. Once I did that, I realized where the holes were in my own approach and how what I do is more systemized than I initially had thought.
Anyway, the gist of it is that what the majority of PU companies teach is very tactical. There are some great instructors who can take guys who are afraid to approach women and are used to being rejected and have them quickly getting phone numbers, dates or same night lays. It is very powerful!
- Capt Jack http://captainjackpua.blogspot.com/
- Sinn http://sinnsofattraction.blogspot.com/
- El Topo http://the-red-mole.blogspot.com/
This is a very important skill to have but as I mentioned, it is very tactical. The issue is that is requires YOU and YOUR time for you to have any success.
What I have in place, and actually have had for many, many years, is actually a system and lifestyle that does much of the work for me. It is more of a strategical approach. And what I was missing a year and a half ago was simply the tactical piece.
Now that I have both of these pieces together - tactical and strategic - I have had more dating success than I ever dreamed. And more than almost anyone I know.
And the best part about the system is that it can be dialed up or down as I need. I picture it as a "lever". When I want more dating or relationships with women, I push the lever up and it starts happening. Sure, I still have to go out and meet people but a lot of women start coming after me making my job much easier.
And when work has me tied down, I want to focus more of my time on getting to know just one or a couple of girls or I want to spend my time doing other things, I pull the lever down and it all slows down.
More to come......
Thursday, January 31, 2008
How many of YOU are there?
I have been giving a lot of thought in regards to the pick up community. My day-to-day job is to help companies/projects run more efficiently and I am very successful at what I do. Lately, I have been applying some of my efficiency disciplines to my favorite hobby - seduction.
I had an epiphany a couple of weeks ago and have been vetting it against my usual wing who has a PHD in psychology and ran a relationship and marriage counseling practice for many, many years.
How many of YOU are there? There is only one you of course. My realization is that all or at least the majority of the pick up companies/methodologies focus just on YOUR skills. These skills are of course very important however, they can only be implemented and enacted by you. And only during your free time.
This greatly limits your exposure to the amount of quality women you desire to meet. It comes down to the effort that can give or the free time that you have.
What if you had a system in place that brought women to you?
I was asked recently to dissect my "game" to teach it to someone wanting to learn from my success. As simple a question as this was, it actually took me to a while to discern the steps I take as I have internalized much of what I do in regards to dating.
What I realized is that although I definitely have a "methodology" I follow when talking to a girl or girls, what is much more effective is the "system" or lifestyle I have enacted in my life which results in much of the "work" being done for me. In fact, I would say that 70% to 80% of the women I date actually approach me or make the moves on me first. And somewhere in the ball park of 90% of the sexual interactions I have - whether they be the first time I am with a girl or during a long term relationship - are initiated by the girl.
This system allows me to choose from the very attractive, successful women flirting with me versus having to exude the effort to seek out the women I may desire.
More on this subject later. Let me know if you are interested in hearing more about my ideas.
I had an epiphany a couple of weeks ago and have been vetting it against my usual wing who has a PHD in psychology and ran a relationship and marriage counseling practice for many, many years.
How many of YOU are there? There is only one you of course. My realization is that all or at least the majority of the pick up companies/methodologies focus just on YOUR skills. These skills are of course very important however, they can only be implemented and enacted by you. And only during your free time.
This greatly limits your exposure to the amount of quality women you desire to meet. It comes down to the effort that can give or the free time that you have.
What if you had a system in place that brought women to you?
I was asked recently to dissect my "game" to teach it to someone wanting to learn from my success. As simple a question as this was, it actually took me to a while to discern the steps I take as I have internalized much of what I do in regards to dating.
What I realized is that although I definitely have a "methodology" I follow when talking to a girl or girls, what is much more effective is the "system" or lifestyle I have enacted in my life which results in much of the "work" being done for me. In fact, I would say that 70% to 80% of the women I date actually approach me or make the moves on me first. And somewhere in the ball park of 90% of the sexual interactions I have - whether they be the first time I am with a girl or during a long term relationship - are initiated by the girl.
This system allows me to choose from the very attractive, successful women flirting with me versus having to exude the effort to seek out the women I may desire.
More on this subject later. Let me know if you are interested in hearing more about my ideas.
Wednesday, January 30, 2008
Tuesday, January 29, 2008
Monday, January 28, 2008
Sunday, January 27, 2008
Get a grip
Published in Business Week in the Dec 3, 2007 issue. Article by Catherine Arnst
"Get a Grip"
Sizing up the new guy at work? Check out his handshake. The firmer it is, the more socially dominant he's likely to be, concludes a small study led by psychologist Gordon Gallup of the State University of New York at Albany. The study, which analyzed the handshakes - and the sexual, social and physical histories - of 140 college students, found no correlation for females between a strong grip and behavioral competitiveness or body type. (As with men, there was a link to good health.) But males with firm grips reported more aggressive behavior and were more likley to have broad shoulders and narrow hips. (There were also about 10% more promiscouos.) Gallup says a grip's strength is 35% environmental, 65% genetic - and that a strong claps may have evolved from human's deep past, when tree-swinging monkeys with weak grips fell to earth more often.
"Get a Grip"
Sizing up the new guy at work? Check out his handshake. The firmer it is, the more socially dominant he's likely to be, concludes a small study led by psychologist Gordon Gallup of the State University of New York at Albany. The study, which analyzed the handshakes - and the sexual, social and physical histories - of 140 college students, found no correlation for females between a strong grip and behavioral competitiveness or body type. (As with men, there was a link to good health.) But males with firm grips reported more aggressive behavior and were more likley to have broad shoulders and narrow hips. (There were also about 10% more promiscouos.) Gallup says a grip's strength is 35% environmental, 65% genetic - and that a strong claps may have evolved from human's deep past, when tree-swinging monkeys with weak grips fell to earth more often.
Thursday, January 24, 2008
Sales as seduction
I think Geoffrey James wrote this post just so I would put it on my blog. =)
http://blogs.bnet.com/salesmachine/?p=219
http://blogs.bnet.com/salesmachine/?p=219
Saturday, January 19, 2008
Thursday, January 17, 2008
How to ask for a new contact
It's been a while since I referenced anything from Geoffrey James. This is a very good article...
http://blogs.bnet.com/salesmachine/?p=216
http://blogs.bnet.com/salesmachine/?p=216
Wednesday, January 16, 2008
Quote of the day
"The easiest thing in the world to be is you. The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be. Don't let them put you in that position."
Leo Buscaglia
Leo Buscaglia
Monday, January 14, 2008
Wednesday, January 9, 2008
What are you doing here?
Divorcing? I think they are meant for each other....
http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20080109/od_nm/brothel_dc_1;_ylt=AnkmHQJzoDOoi4R1Kc0kEJEE1vAI
http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20080109/od_nm/brothel_dc_1;_ylt=AnkmHQJzoDOoi4R1Kc0kEJEE1vAI
Monday, January 7, 2008
I would marry her in a New York minute!
I was looking through my computer for a document I wrote several years ago and stumbled across this AWESOME craig's list post I had saved.
"RAVE: I give head like a pornstar"
posted by anon-110575058@craigslist.org on Nov 11, 2005.
Everyone I've ever given head to says its the best they've ever had. Well ladies this is why so try and make your man happy.
1.I LOVE to do it. It absolutely turns me on more than recieving it. I will even feel myselt start to drip.
2.I look up at him while I'm doing it so he knows I'm loving it. You give him the eyes or that "i fucking love this" face. Literally devour him. Act like you can't get enough of his cock.
3.I spend a lot of time licking and sucking his balls while using my hands on him and looking him in the eye... Also--yes I'll perform a "hummer" if you will
4.Of course I SWALLOW.. but I also allow him to pull back, jerk into my open waiting mouth and onto my tits.
5.I always give while on my knees.. He's either standing up over me holding my hair or he might be sitting on the couch. Either way at some point I will take my breasts and wrap them around his shaft and fuck it while I suck his head. This way he also gets to watch your ass wiggling.
6.Yes, I have let him give me a pearl necklace. In that case I lick the cum off of my tits and I have him feed it to me off of his fingers.
7.I'll talk dirty to him a little bit. Tell him I don't want him to cum yet because I'm not ready, or that I love the way his hard cock feels in my mouth.. I take my time--he better be prepared to sit there for at least a half hour probably more.
8.I love to lick and tickle under his balls. THe "taint" if you will. Or I'll use my thumb to apply light pressure in circular motions or going up and down. I'll go lower and lower down to the ass if he lets me. If he's enjoying it, yes I will rim, and yes I have fingered his ass.
9.When I'm getting really turned on, I'll reach between my legs and play with myself in front of him. Then I'll take my soaking wet fingers rub my juice on his head and then suck it off. I'll also suck my fingers clean for him. If its someone I am dating or something then I've even gone so far as to climb onto him.. lower myself.. sit there for about 10 seconds then get back down on my knees and continue sucking.
10.I deep throat. There have been instances where I dont even realize he came because it's so far down my throat. If he gags me I keep going.
11.And its just general technique. I have a very busy tongue and I get him into a great rhythm building him up and slowing down to help prolong and intensify his orgasm. I love to flick my tongue back and forth around his sensitive ridge and all underneath it.
12.I also SUCK his cock head firmly letting it pass in and out of my mouth, so my lips run over him while he fucks my wet mouth.
13.I'll get him nice and wet and use my hand to stroke him in a counter-clockwise motion and then I suck on him going clockwise. The other hand goes to his nipples, balls etc.. but the combined sensations get him so hard.
14.When he's ready to cum thats when speed and intensity HAVE TO INCREASE. I bob up and down on him faster and faster and I let him thrust his hips too so I take him even deeper.
15.After he cums I'll continue to suck him slowing down intensity and speed, bringing him down from his orgasm until he stops me becuase he's so sensitive. And that is why I give head like a pornstar.
No, I am not a slut and I do not have STD's. I'm just a woman who likes to suck cock.
Men--there are other women out there like me so don't give up hope if you have never had great head.
"RAVE: I give head like a pornstar"
posted by anon-110575058@craigslist.org on Nov 11, 2005.
Everyone I've ever given head to says its the best they've ever had. Well ladies this is why so try and make your man happy.
1.I LOVE to do it. It absolutely turns me on more than recieving it. I will even feel myselt start to drip.
2.I look up at him while I'm doing it so he knows I'm loving it. You give him the eyes or that "i fucking love this" face. Literally devour him. Act like you can't get enough of his cock.
3.I spend a lot of time licking and sucking his balls while using my hands on him and looking him in the eye... Also--yes I'll perform a "hummer" if you will
4.Of course I SWALLOW.. but I also allow him to pull back, jerk into my open waiting mouth and onto my tits.
5.I always give while on my knees.. He's either standing up over me holding my hair or he might be sitting on the couch. Either way at some point I will take my breasts and wrap them around his shaft and fuck it while I suck his head. This way he also gets to watch your ass wiggling.
6.Yes, I have let him give me a pearl necklace. In that case I lick the cum off of my tits and I have him feed it to me off of his fingers.
7.I'll talk dirty to him a little bit. Tell him I don't want him to cum yet because I'm not ready, or that I love the way his hard cock feels in my mouth.. I take my time--he better be prepared to sit there for at least a half hour probably more.
8.I love to lick and tickle under his balls. THe "taint" if you will. Or I'll use my thumb to apply light pressure in circular motions or going up and down. I'll go lower and lower down to the ass if he lets me. If he's enjoying it, yes I will rim, and yes I have fingered his ass.
9.When I'm getting really turned on, I'll reach between my legs and play with myself in front of him. Then I'll take my soaking wet fingers rub my juice on his head and then suck it off. I'll also suck my fingers clean for him. If its someone I am dating or something then I've even gone so far as to climb onto him.. lower myself.. sit there for about 10 seconds then get back down on my knees and continue sucking.
10.I deep throat. There have been instances where I dont even realize he came because it's so far down my throat. If he gags me I keep going.
11.And its just general technique. I have a very busy tongue and I get him into a great rhythm building him up and slowing down to help prolong and intensify his orgasm. I love to flick my tongue back and forth around his sensitive ridge and all underneath it.
12.I also SUCK his cock head firmly letting it pass in and out of my mouth, so my lips run over him while he fucks my wet mouth.
13.I'll get him nice and wet and use my hand to stroke him in a counter-clockwise motion and then I suck on him going clockwise. The other hand goes to his nipples, balls etc.. but the combined sensations get him so hard.
14.When he's ready to cum thats when speed and intensity HAVE TO INCREASE. I bob up and down on him faster and faster and I let him thrust his hips too so I take him even deeper.
15.After he cums I'll continue to suck him slowing down intensity and speed, bringing him down from his orgasm until he stops me becuase he's so sensitive. And that is why I give head like a pornstar.
No, I am not a slut and I do not have STD's. I'm just a woman who likes to suck cock.
Men--there are other women out there like me so don't give up hope if you have never had great head.
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