Cycles

As everyone who has ever had an intimate relationship with a woman for any length of time can attest, you will quickly learn about the female menstrual cycle and the various emotional states that may come and go with it.

A quick primer – the cycle happens on average every 28 days with ovulation usually on the 14th day. The most fertile period during the cycle comes right around ovulation as sperm can live over 72 hours inside the female body. Hormones to promote pregnancy typically happen two days prior to ovulation and lasts normally around 48 hours.

Before the period occurs, many symptoms may occur in the female, varying in intensity from woman to woman, based on genetics, birth control, health, diet, age and other factors. Some of the effects that may occur:
- Breast tenderness and swelling
- Weight gain of a few pounds
- Bloating
- Cramping
- Fatigue
- Mood swings

Such symptoms are usually predictable and occur regularly during the two weeks prior to the period but are usually at their worst starting the 6th day before the period. PMS generally occurs on a regular basis, with susceptible women experiencing the same symptoms on a regular basis.

As a guy, it is advantageous to talk to your girl about her cycle. Is it regular? Does she get moody? Is it painful? Having a better understanding can help you in all of your interactions with her. It should also demonstrate caring and compassion that you are trying to get to know her and understand her better.

When a girl is PMSing, a guy should know how to handle her mood swings if she is susceptible to such. Hugs and kisses can sometimes diffuse arguments or drama during that time instead of heatedly reacting to any spike of emotion from her. Women will appreciate your actions and appreciate you more for being understanding – at least the women in my life have.

Many times, if a girl is acting irrational during when she is PMSing, I will call her on her BS by telling her she is overreacting or being irrational. Some women are fine with this, however with others, I have found that you need to have a conversation regarding her mood swings when she is not PMSing. “Wow, last week you were really moody, were you PMSing?” Get that conversation on the table so that you can bring it up during the moment to ease any irrationality and avoid needless arguments.

Really key is noting her cycle and correlating it to her moods. Most women have a time or two a month when they are really horny. Usually this occurring around ovulation is normal but I have found many women also get really horny right before their period. It varies by girl but I have found it to be fairly consistent for each girl.

If you need help tracking a female’s cycle, there are actually free website to help. Check out www.pmsbuddy.com as one example.

Strategy: So, if you have a girl who was really hot for you at the club or when you are out with her and the next time you see her she suddenly goes cold, correlate it to her monthly cycle and try to contact her again the same time of her cycle a month later.

My philosophy is to never throw away a number. You never know what mood, emotional state or relationship statuts the girl was in when you met her. I will always try again later if I was really attracted to the girl. If I thought our interaction was really intense, I will note what time of the month it happened and try again a month or two later during that same time.

Plant many seeds and with nourishment they will grow.