Be the man

I had the opportunity yesterday to have lunch with a recently engaged woman who is second guessing her decision and then go out for drinks in the evening with 2 married women who are very unhappy in their marriage.

All three women had the same thing to say as to why they were unhappy: Their men weren’t men. All three mentioned that they were the “men” in the relationships and they weren’t attracted to their spouses/fiancé anymore because of it.

The engaged woman told me that her fiancé was kind, sweet, would be a great husband and a wonderful father. However, she is the one that makes all of the decisions and he just goes along with them. He chased her for over a year before she finally gave in and started dating him. When he proposed, she was taken completely off guard and almost said no. Instead she said “Are you serious? Are you serious?” several times before he finally just slipped the ring on her finger. She never actually said yes.

She is now trying to rationalize whether she wants to marry him. She said everything is there in the relationship except for passion. All her friends are encouraging her to go through with it because he is such a great guy however she has her doubts as to whether she wants to. She is going to start going to counseling to work out the decision in her mind. And at the end of lunch, she made it perfectly clear that if I wanted her, she was there for the taking.

Last night, I met up with one of the married women first and her friend joined us later. The first one started talking about how unhappy she is, how her husband (who was her high school sweetheart), just doesn’t try anymore. How he is complacent. How he doesn’t make decisions. How he has become boring and predictable in bed. She mentioned that she was considering an affair and mentioned to me how she gets hit on a lot and may take someone up on it.

After we talked a while, her friend, the other married woman, joined us. We small talked for a while and then I bounced them to one bar and then to another.

As we walked into the second bar, a guy yells out to the second woman from across the patio “Hey, are you with him? If not, get over here!” And she did. It turns out, the guy was a tool but she commented later that she was attracted to his confidence.

She then went into all of the ways she is unhappy with her husband. She said she wears the pants in the family, she pays the bills, she makes the decisions and she initiates sex. She has started going out a lot lately leaving her husband to stay in and watch the kids. Not only does he allow this, he encourages it and told her she should get some new clothes so that she doesn’t wear the same thing every time she goes out.

This woman is hot! For her age and having a few kids, she is a 10. Plus she has a fun, spunky attitude. She point blank asked me that if I was her husband, would I encourage her to go out every night. I told her “hell no”. She said that if her husband put his foot down and demanded she stayed in, she would probably be more attracted to him. Instead, he lets her walk all over him. She mentioned that it wasn’t about attention as her husband gives her plenty of that. It was about being dominant. Being a man.

As I walked them back to their car, the first woman started walking beside me and we ended up holding hands. She drove but her friend said that she would drive back, hopped in the driver’s seat and then got on the phone. This left me standing outside the car with the other one. I locked eyes with her and held her stare. I then reached my hand behind her neck, grabbed a large chunk of hair, firmly pulled it down and then stepped in and bit her neck. She moaned and we started making out. I pushed her roughly against her car and pressed my body firmly against hers. She started moaning, clawing my back and biting my lips and neck.

This continued for a while until our hands started to wander, the whole time people are walking by us and her friend is waiting in the car. Knowing she had to get home to her husband and that her friend was patiently waiting on her, I stop us and pull away. We were both worked up and breathing hard by this point. She tells me if her husband ever did that to her, she would never let him leave the bedroom.

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Hilarious article

http://www.theonion.com/content/news/study_casual_sex_only_rewarding?utm_source=onion_rss_daily

"When I think back on the countless times I've had raw, almost bestial sex, indoors or outdoors, with one, sometimes two Asian women whose parents I'll never have to meet, I occasionally get a little down," Pertzborn said. "God, what if I wasted my life having guilt-free, uninhibited, sensually explosive sex with anyone I wanted?"

Synchonizing

It is a scientific fact that women who are in close proximity with each other will synchronize their cycles. Do you think it is possible that a shared man can cause the same effect, even if they have never met each other?

Four of the girls I am seeing are causing me serious drama today out of the blue. One was a little late on her period, one a little early, the other two I am not as knowledgeable of their cycle but net net is that they are all PMSing at the same time. And making my life hell.

Blowing up is sometimes a positive thing

Lately I have been buying tickets to whatever concert, theater show, musical or comedy event interests me and then finding a date later.

I had tickets to a musical in Ft. Worth and call up this hot girl I have been talking to for a while to see if she wants to go. This girl is head turning beautiful and from money but has an attitude to that surpasses her beauty and wealth. I am unsure how hard I want to pursue her because I am from humble roots and this diva shit she puts out really rubs me the wrong way.

However, I know she will appreciate the musical and I want to get to know her better before I make a full impression of her. She agrees to go and we decide to make a day of it. I make tentative plans to get a hotel room in Ft. Worth in case things go well and/or we have too much to drink.

I pick her up, we drive to Ft. Worth and run around Sundance Square for a while. We are holding hands as we walk around and check out the sights.

We grab dinner on an outside patio and people watch everyone walking by. We are having a good time but she is being somewhat of a shit. I can tell this girl is used to guys fawning over her. She likes to get her own way.

Dinner is over and we go watch the musical. It is pretty good but I have seen better. She rests head on my shoulder through much of it and we hold hands and kiss a bit. During any quiet time or break, she takes the opportunity to tell me how better the musical that so and so took her to was and how better a time she could be having if she was doing such and such. I hate name droppers.

After the show, we bounce around to a couple of the bars and listen to some music.

Halfway into my first beer, she starts getting pissy with me. It is not about anything specific, she is just being a diva. I make a joke that 99.9% of the population would find funny however, she decides that it is demeaning. Instead of just rolling with it, she decides to make an issue of my joke.

So I am at a decision point. I can continue to let this girl be a diva who thinks I need to cater to her every whim or I can make a stand. I am the most analytical, robotic person I know. I rarely let emotion control me, usually to a fault. So I make the decision to be emotional to make a point.

I tell her she is disrespectful of me for ruining the nice evening I had planned and being disrespectful of my time. I tell her I don't tolerate this kind of behavior and am going back to Dallas. Instead of apologizing, she makes an even bigger issue of the innocent joke. Diva big time!

I decide to drop a grenade and tell her I am leaving and if she wants a ride back to Dallas, she better come now or she will be left behind and then start walking off. She says that NO ONE walks out on her. I tell her she is about to experienced her first and unless she wants to drop over $100 on a taxi back to Dallas, she better come with me. She hesitates and eventually runs in her high dollar heals to catch up to me as I am leaving the club heading to my car.

She is giving me all kinds of attitude in the car so I pull over to a gas station and tell her she can either drop the attitude or take a taxi from here. She clams up and I continue driving.

She starts dishing shit at me again during the ride so I turn up the music so loud I can't hear her. I am really not the least bit upset about the evening but am instead making a powerplay that her looks and money aren't going to impress me.

We get back to her place and I pull up next to the sidewalk, put the car in park and wait silently for her to get out. She sits there for a while and then starts to argue with me again about how no one has ever treated her this way. I tell her that she is long overdue with the attitude she exudes and to get out of my car because I am tired of wasting my time on her and want to salvage the night.

She sits in silence again and starts to apologize. I tell her she is a very long car ride too late to apologize and to get out. She reluctantly gets out of the car. I text Sinn to find out where he is at and head to Xbar to meet up with Sinn and Capt Jack.

My actions weren't really a gamble. I honestly wouldn't be able to tolerate her attitude. My choices were to let her continue and just never see her again after the night or blow up the evening to see if I can alter her behavior.

Well, my gambit appears to be working so far. She has sent me 3 myspace messages, an email and 4 text messages apologizing and proposing to make it up to me.

We shall see where this goes.

Really, it is OK to date

Friday night I decide to go out with a girl I used to date that I haven't seen in a while. Instead of staying in and having sex or grabbing dinner, I decide to take her to a club and then back to my place. There is a lingerie party at a local club and I try to convince her to wear lingerie but she isn't comfortable doing so. Instead, she wears a tight fitting little dress.

This girl is 35 and for her age, she is looking HOT. She is a size 0 with natural D size breasts. And she is phenomenal in the sack - the best lay I have ever been with, bar none.

We arrive at the club and grab a drink and people watch. As the place fills up, I swear every PUA in Dallas must have made an appearance....Asian Playboy, Printer, El Topo, Shack, Strapper and several others are there.

As my girl and I are being social, we are walking around and saying hi to everyone as I see them.

Everyone was well meaning but I was told at least 5 times to get my girl home before I lose her or given advice on what I should be doing with her. It was kind of funny. I couldn't explain myself in front of my girl so I took the advice in stride.

At least one PUA tried to help me out when they thought I was being AMOGed. I am very appreciative of the help. However, I am 100% confident that she is going home with me so I don't care who talks to her. We were being social and just enjoying being out.

It was good seeing all of the PUAs out and about. A few I hadn't talked to in a while.

I think that the community as a whole is so focused on continually improving their game by learning on set after set, that it is easy to forget that it is OK to date. I actually enjoy getting to know the women I have met better and sleeping with them more than once. The sex gets better and better as you get more comfortable with each other and communicate what pleases you.

Why kissing means more to women

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/6975794.stm

If a picture is worth a 1,000 words, so may be a kiss - or certainly to a woman anyway, researchers say.

A New York State University team quizzed over 1,000 students, finding women place a big emphasis on kissing.

They use kissing as a way of assessing the recipient as a potential partner, and later to maintain intimacy and to check the status of a relationship.

But men placed less importance on it, using it to increase the likelihood of sex, Evolutionary Psychology reported.

The questionnaires revealed men were less discriminating when it came to deciding who to kiss or who to have sex with.

They were more willing to have sex with someone without kissing, to have sex with someone they are not attracted to and agree to have sex with someone they considered to be a bad kisser.

But kissing was more important as a bonding mechanism to women.

In long-term relationships females not only rate kissing as more important than men, but they indicated that kissing was important throughout a relationship.

Meanwhile, men placed less importance on kissing as the relationship progresses.
There was also a difference in the sort of kisses the two sexes preferred, with men liking wet, tongue kisses.

Lead researcher Dr Gordon Gallup said kissing had developed over time to become an essential part of the courtship process.

But he added: "While both sexes participate in the adaptive benefits of kissing, we found sex differences when considering the pursuit of short- versus long-term mating strategies."

Dr Glenn Wilson, an expert in relationships at London's Institute of Psychiatry, said: "Kissing is used by everyone as a bonding and testing mechanism.

"But the fact is women are more discriminatory than men. Men can just go out and spread their seed, but women have to take more responsibility because of the consequences and so they are likely to want to test more."